Lost our mum

Coping with bereavement
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My mum died suddenly a few days ago and I really don’t know what to do with myself
She was admitted via A & E earlier in the week with breathlessness /dizziness , they found she had a UTI, low sodium and high blood pressure so admitted to run a course of antibiotics .
Day before she died I checked on her and they said she was doing great and would be back to her home in 3 days
Early hours of the following morning I get a phone call to say she’d passed away suddenly after being checked on an hour before for her IV antibiotics
I’ve only my brother ,my partner was working abroad, she is estranged from her sister and nieces so no other immediate family to turn to apart from my brother
I’m finding it hard to accept how she could have crashed so fast , the hospital she was at doesnt have the best reputation , and I have been told it wasn’t actually a ward but a clinical unit with 13 beds and TWO nurses

She arranged to leave her body to medical research as well but has to have a post mortem due to unexpected death

Has anyone ever had someone leave their loved ones body to research as don’t have a clue what to expect

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Hello @goblinqueen666

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community. I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and for sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to read about your mum and what you’re going through.

Just giving your thread a gentle “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share. In the meantime, you may also wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.

  • Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
  • Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
  • Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.

I really hope you find the community helpful and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,
Megan

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