I’m so glad we can support each other, in the day time I can walk the dog or talk to friends but I find the night time so much harder.
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Yes I feel like night time is worse too I am so thankful that at the moment I have my mum staying with me since he passed as I don’t know how I would get through at night without being with anyone as we lived together and I was with him nearly everyday and daytime it’s easier to go out or something night time has to be the hardest but at least here we can talk on here and keep each other company
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@He1 so sorry for your loss, so young and so cruel. My Steve was 44 and passed away whilst we were on holiday in September. It’s literally broken me and I am so lost without him. I don’t have a clue how to move forward without him 
There are none where I live, I’m going to see a counsellor hopefully. I’ve got a lot going on so I need some help. Steve was my rock and he’d know what to do or say.
Yeah I was going to see about the face to face support groups but I think I tried to look them up but never properly looked at them but I’m defos going to have a look again cause I wood like some support soon cause being on my own im going to struggle with as I was so used to living with my partner for 13 years I was never apart from him for any long periods of time
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I was given a list of support groups online and face to face from the GP, my employer and the coroner. But I have only chosen one of them.
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Hello Ian6.
Your darling wife gave you the strength to be who you are, not who you were. Her legacy lives on in you, remember this and you will be strong again, For her. Which is exactly what she would want. She would want you to find peace, and a purpose, a reason to go on. It won’t be easy, but you can do it, for yourself, and for your darling wife.
Seek friendship and good conversation. Good luck.
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I will certainly see if I can find any lists of any groups that I can go too with people who are going through the same type of grief
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Hello Lauren29
I don’t know where you are, but the groups I have found in Cambridgeshire include Adam’s Rose, a bereavement charity (my wife died in 2022) and Acorn Cancer Support (I have incurable cancer). Both groups have people who are in similar circumstances and I feel comfortable with them. I hope you are able to find similar groups in your area. Please let me know how you get on.
Take care.
Good luck
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I live in Scotland Glasgow so I just have to do some homework on we’re I can get some groups to try them out with people who have been through the same thing as myself thanks for helping me out though I will continue to seek some groups
I like Glasgow, I went to university there, and later spent some time in Dunoon and the submarine base at the Holy Loch.
I can relax when I am with others who are in a similar situation, I can say how I feel without being judged. Some have similar interests, so we have another connection. I need to be with people, to have real conversations, but I am on my own most days and have the occasional meltdown. These groups are my lifeline and provide the solace I need if I am to survive.
Best wishes
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How is everyone this evening?. I had the post-mortem results yesterday so hard to read, and now it’s going to inquest in June. The evenings and night are so hard.
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Sending a big hug to you. 18 weeks for me today and it’s been a tough day.x
I’m doing ok today I went and treated myself and got my hair done and my partner would love it as he was going to get me the hair extensions recently he knew I really wanted to get them fitted ohh you have the post mortem results how long did you wait as I would like to know roughly how long I will be waiting so it’s going to an inquest now I know the nights are the hardest I think too
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Jason passed away 6 weeks tomorrow, the coroner told me the result takes 6 to 12 weeks but I had them yesterday, very difficult to read very in-depth and some things are not quite right but the coroner did warn me about that. I was asked if I want to attend the inquest but I really couldn’t listen to it I think I would have a breakdown so I’m not attending but they will send the inquest report at the end.
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So sorry. I lost my partner in October, too. I’m surviving, but not really living. It’s just getting through each day, then going on to the next day, and the next, and hoping that one morning you wake up and don’t feel as bad as you do right now.
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That’s how I feel, I’m am suffering with anxiety at times too, very weird but if someone makes plans I’m stressing really bad and it might only be to take the dog down the beach, once I’m there I’m fine it’s just the thought of it.
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Yes, the anxiety is part of it; and the strain of having to learn how to do the things that he always did. It’s exhausting.
That was quick then for the post-mortem results where do you stay ?yeah I think the inquest would be very hard so maybe best to not attend and just get the paper work through yes the anxiety of going out and just doing things that use would do as a couple is very hard I’m finding at the moment and just getting dressed to go out too.