I lost my long term partner for 13 years ago in October it is very hard trying to think how my life will get through the next stages I have to get through
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Hi I lost mine in September suddenly too and I’m totally heartbroken I just don’t know what to do without him. I know it’s early days and all that but I don’t know how to take the steps on my journey. I’m suffering with anxiety although it’s eased a bit. I don’t have family or friends close by so it’s a very lonely journey.
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Yeah it’s all very sudden for us both I and not sure one but of what the future will hold too .I have some family and friends around me but I am not working at the moment but I hope you can seek some help and friends on this too which would make you feel that little bit better this is my first time being in here I think it will help me from other people talking about there experiences and how they are managing through the grief to make it a little bit easier k understand it’s a thing we will never get over it but learning how to deal with it now .
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I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my beloved husband of 35 years 8 months ago,
all I can say is try to take one day at a time and just let all your feelings out don’t try to suppress them. I know everyone grieves differently but it seems to help me.
Take care and best wishes X
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Hello…
It is a very hard trying to figure out the next stages, and very frightening as well, so many people on here who are so brokenhearted 
Take care.
Alison.
Yes it’s a very hard confusing time of what I will do next with each part of my life as we done mostly everything together the only thing I would do on my own was going to work and being with friends etc.i hope to get as much help as I can on here with other people are going through it aswell can help me and we can all help each other.
Lauren
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I’ve decided not to make any plans for now I’m just taking a day at a time. If I plan anything my anxiety gets really bad so I just wait to see how I am when I wake up. All I’m doing at the moment is going to work and that’s hard enough. We literally did everything together and now I’m totally lost. People say find a hobby or join the gym but sometimes it’s tough just to get up and shower.
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Yes this is very similar for myself too like we done everything together and I’m still off work at the moment and my partner passed away and the end of October so I hope I’m ok at work but I will be cutting my shifts down to try and ease me back into it and yes it is very hard just trying t get out of bed and get into a shower and get dressed and hair down and even makeup I don’t even wear any now it’s a task trying to even get that on too.
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I’m so sorry, but I too am in the same position. We had just purchased our perfect home in Scotland and only just got the carpets laid. Christmas day was great, but on Boxing day my darling wife was rushed to hospital. She fought bravely but finally gave in a week ago yesterday. We have no friends close by (over five hundred miles away) and have never even seen our neighbours. Life is just so empty and pointless without her.
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@Ian6 so sorry for your loss. Talking on here does help a bit as we are all in the same boat. It’s very early days for you but all I can say is baby steps and one day at a time. I tried to put Steve’s clothes away today but couldn’t do it
I’m a rough tough engineer (so my wife used to say, before I retired) But now all i can seem to do is cry. Every time i go into our bedroom I have to turn away and leave because the pain is just too much to handle. people used to think i had the answer to everything, but little did they know that it was my darling wife that gave me the strength to be who I was.
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I know it’s very difficult to see there things clothes with my partner it’s the computer desk and chair and monitor etc and a webcam and big microphone and ring light I got chris and they are just sitting in the room still atm I think our other half’s gave us the strength to be the way that we all are and now without them I don’t know what I should be doing each day
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When you find your soul mate, I honestly feel they take your soul and very being with them. My Lindi always used to say that you don’t have to see the stars to know they’re there, but for me those stars went with her.
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Yeah I think when they pass they take part of you with them I just hope each day for some signs that he is watching over me and looking after me from up there
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I can feel Steve around me and I feel him touch my feet. He knew I hated my feet being touched so this is typical of him, I also feel him touch my hair when I’m crying in bed.
It’s all so very sad and I don’t feel that any words can take away even part of the pain of loss. What good is life without our very souls that have been taken along with our loved ones?
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There are no words and we all deal with this differently. I’m 18 weeks in now and just taking a day at a time.
I will just be waiting to see if I get any signs from Chris maybe over time I’m only 12 weeks forward without him I know there isn’t any words that can make us feel any better at all I try to just take it one day at a time to see if I can feel any different but I don’t think I will ever feel any better
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Hi, I lost my husband on Dec 10th suddenly and tragically at our home. I’m still in shock and I’m crying all the time. He was only 48 and we had so much planned for our future. This is so hard.
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I’m so sorry for your loss it’s a hard time but we are all supporting each other on this website I was very similar too I lost my partner aged 34 he was only 34 for 2 weeks as his birthday was in October and he passed away in October and his was a sudden death too which makes this so hard