Where to start my husband was diagnosed with bowel cancer beginning of march this year , he had op end march was in hospital for a week came home and he was on the mend then 4 days later he was in pain , I phoned 999 he was took back into hospital and 24 hours later he died , I’m lost , broken and empty and the tears don’t stop .
I was made redundant in April as well so my whole world just gone , I live in a place where I have a few friends but they all work I’m on my own , I have a son he doesn’t live near .
My husband’s family don’t live near but they just tell me there pain and I can’t deal with there pain and is all what they want of my husband’s things I can’t give anything away of his .
Windy, I am so sorry for your loss. Losing your job as well is huge as I know my work has given me focus and some sense of purpose since my husband passed away last year. You don’t have to give any possessions away, keep them for as long as you want to, forever if that is right for you. Don’t give anything away right now because it will all be a bit of a blurr for you. Is there a local support group you could join if you don’t have many local friends?
Sindy it is so hard. Keep talking on here and if you feel able, think about counselling. I had some counselling about 4 months after my husband died and I think it did help me to get some emotions out, much easier with someone you’re not worried about upsetting. Losing your partner is something you cannot describe to anyone who has not gone through it. Waking up each day is hard but gradually the happier memories come back to the front of your mind overtaking the awful memories of the last days, funeral etc
I don’t have anyone to talk to , friends all have there husbands families , I’m just on my own every day and the days are so long , I’m just crying all the time , it was just my husband and me against the world .
I am in exactly the same position. I have friends, but they are not near and have their own lives. I am not working at the minute, so it’s just me and the cat. Like you say, the days are very long and quiet. Always here if you want to talk, you are not alone.
Never felt life like this , the tears don’t stop everything just reminds me of what I have lost , I have never been so scared , feel like I don’t have a future, you see everyone making plans doing things together and knowing I don’t have that anymore.