Lost

Coping with bereavement
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I lost my wife in September, i am now totally lost, i need help

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I lost my beloved husband in November so I understand how you feel, being on here helps.

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@Diggerdave reach out on here whenever you need to, we all know how you are feeling and it helps to talk I think. You’re still in early days as yet, so be gentle with yourself and just take one day at a time. Do you have family and friends for support?

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Yes thank you every one .it is so hard .to cope i am going to a bereavement council see if they can help me xx i have a good family who are looking after me .

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I am struggling at the moment i can not stop crying i need help bereavement is helpng .xx

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@Diggerdave I’m so sorry you’re struggling today. How many counselling sessions have you had? Hopefully tomorrow will be a bit of a better day for you, take care

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I have had one.it helped .but i need more i have 6 booked lets hope they work or at least help me xx

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Ive had one last month but I didn’t think it helped, ive got another appointment next Thursday so I will see if it helps this time.

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You have to go to bereavement counciling with an open mind,just listen to what they tell .and you telll how you feel.as i said before struggling today .can not stop cry and thinking about her .xx

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Yes I’ll try, she did say that I will need them for a few months. Ive also got the solicitors helping me with my husband’s case which is keeping me going.
Ive not stopped crying since I lost him. Ive hit rock bottom and just want to give up, I just can’t be bothered with anything else anymore. Im fed up with people saying im strong. Im not strong, my husband made me that way.
Dr has put me on antidepressants but all they do is help me sleep

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Today is a horrible day i thought i thought i might. Be getting a bit better but no i think i am getting worse .no one comes to see how i am or phones me .anyway looking forward to my next bereavement session . The first session has helped a bit.but days when yhe sun is shinning memories come flying back .oh what i would do to have an other day or 3 with her xxxx

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A day like this my husband would be in the workshop pottering and tinkering with things or he would cut the grass and then I would come home from work and we’d sit in the back garden until the sun would come down. The only time I go out into the garden now is to let our labrador out.

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Nice memories xxx

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I am having a really bad day .just can not stop crying. Even the tv things come on and i cry even more xx

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I haven’t been in the workshop since I lost him. His motorbikes are still in there.

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I am offto bed let’s hope tomorrow is not as bad.if i sleep my sleeping has gone weird. Xxx

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Hi all, sorry for everyones loss. I lost my mum nye 2024, i am broken. Cry everyday, mornings arnt great for me. I am grieving and supporting my dad. I have my brother, and son helping. I hate this world without my mum, my best friend, my hero my rock xx

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So sorry for your loss ,you will find comfort on here

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I totally forgot about that identity but I’m not sure if I will get help for this nhs is rather for me personally a waste of time on the phone with my so called support for the bog standard of my life I am asked if I could make a recovery for the issues and then you have got to taken into consideration I’ve lost my family 5 of them all this decade!! You have got another level of grief and now it’s all about manageable for the rest of course but I don’t think I need help berevment I just lost my daddy so much more and then we have got another thing that needs to be fixed so now I’m not coping

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We are here for you if you need to talk, not much for advice but I’m here.
I understand what you are going through, I’m struggling without my beloved husband.
I feel like my heart has been ripped out and half of me is missing.
At the moment I’m seeing a grief counsellor but don’t know if it is doing anything for me, just talking and crying a lot.
Ive hit rock bottom lately and just want to give up, waking up hoping I didn’t and going to sleep wishing I don’t.
After 22 years I feel alone.
Im so sorry for your loss