My husband Ian died 14/2/22 he had been I’ll for a long time but was so good and patient that looking after him was a pleasure. He had lots of friends and they have been devastated with the news of his death.
We met on Valentine’s Day 1972 and he died on Valentine’s Day 2022 so we were together 50 Years exactly.
I feel so lost I just don’t know how I am going to get through this.
Our three girls have been amazing but I don’t want to burden them with letting them know how I truly feel.
I have always been a ‘watering pot ‘ I can cry at the least little thing but I am dreading the funeral, just wish I was stronger.I am questioning if I am doing it right - every time I make a decision, as we always discussed everything and I just want to it right as you can’t go back and do it again, and these will be the memories my family will have going forward.
Good morning, we all on this site know exactly how you feel, we have all been there and there’s right or wrong things to do. Please let your daughters know how you feel because they are the ones who are going to be there in the future and they need to understand how you are. We all have a tendency to put on that ‘brave’ face but sometimes it’s good just to let the mask drop.
I read a post yesterday regarding a lady who felt just like you that she wouldn’t get through the funeral but everything was fine and my own personal experience was just that but the following day was different. Hold in there, you are much braver then you think. Take little baby steps and don’t be in a rush to do anything that you need time to think about but most of all look after yourself both physically and mentally because at present you are very vulnerable. We are all here for you, anytime.
S xxx
Morning Web …sending you love and strength…my husband died 29.12.21…his funeral was 2 days ago …it was a long wait …I was dreading it …it was a long day but I made it …I had massive issues with some of his family which made me anxious and I was having panic attacks…I was with him 21yrs married for 8 …they made me feel that I didn’t exist…however its done and the church was packed with people who loved us both…I tried to hide my feelings from my daughter but in the end I turned to her and she did me …its a really horrendous time ,something I never thought I would be facing yet …he was 53 …this site is brilliant…just to know people are going through the same emotional turmoil helps you understand that you are normal …in grief …that actual physical pain is only experienced when you lose someone you really love …I am trying to control anxiety and I shake …hope its a little better today …take care …Sue
Thanks for telling me of your experience,I know everyone has to go through this. I have been shaking too.
After reading your reply I have decided to talk to my girls ,wish me luck.
Web, not only luck but blessings. You are a very strong lady and you will get through this period and it teaches that you can do things that you would not ever thought you could do. Hugs and blessings. S xxx
Hope we can find comfort in each other …thinking of you all 