Lost

Hello everyone,

Took me a while to really have the courage to tell/ask you all this. I’ve never lost someone close to me in my life other than my exs mom. I’m not really close with my biological mother so I’d always look up to my exs mom as my own mother. My exs mom passed away 4 months ago and my ex lost the light inside her. She broke up with me 3 months ish after her mom’s passing. The reasons were that she wants to be alone and that she doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore. She doesn’t want me to put my life on pause because her life is. She’s told me to move on and it’s now been a month of 0 contact.

After reading from all the discussions in the community I’ve started to understand what grief really is. However I’m also just not sure as to what I should do. I’ve always been an amazing boyfriend towards her. I cannot think of any other reason as to why she broke up with me other than the reasons she listed. I’ve got feelings to however and I’m just not sure if she’ll ever come back. If I may ask the community, how does pushing away the one person who supported you thru everything help? How does being alone help? I hope some of yall can give me a better answer or insight. I know everyone’s different but I’m just currently lost.

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When I lost my dad I pushed my ex husband away. He’d never lost anyone and couldn’t understand my grief. He just wanted me to get on with my life as normal I just couldn’t. He left me 6 weeks later. He tried to come back after a few weeks but it wasn’t the same. We did not get back together after that. I went on to remarry and we both lost loved ones my husband was amazing with me when my mum passed away and now I’ve just lost him. He passed away 16 weeks ago and I’m devastated and lost. If it’s worth fighting for go for it. Life is too short.

I definitely don’t want my ex to move on because this is the worst thing that could ever happen. I do want to wait around.

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