Lost

Losing a partner
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Hi I am new here, I lost my husband of 52yrs on 18th July 7 weeks after he was diagnosed with bile duct cancer. He hadn’t been feeling unwell, he came out of the shower one night and asked me if he looked yellow, that was the start of our nightmare. At first we thought surgery was an option but then they found tumours in the lining of his abdomen. He had two lots of surgery to put stents and drains in then decided he wanted to be at home. I brought him home where he died peacefully in his sleep with me in bed beside him. Some days I think I am doing ok then others are dreadful, I had a message from an old friend asking if I had come to terms with my new normal and what plans have I made for my future, the thought of making plans without him is unbearable. I haven’t replied yet as I may say something I regret. I have a very supportive daughter and grandchildren which is great. I struggle going shopping on my own and sitting at the table, we did everything together for the last 15 years since we retired.

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I lost my partner of 38 years on the16th of July. It is the worst feeling in the world. I managed not to cry until 7pm today. I feel I have no purpose. Everything has changed. I am lost

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I am sorry for your loss, I am hoping it will get easier as time goes on.

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Rajay a bit insensitive of your friend. I had someone ask me if I was managing to keep my spirits up. People who haven’t experienced this have no idea of the devastating effect bereavement can have. I struggle to see a point in things. Nothing makes sense any more.

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I hope we can all find comfort. I don’t know when or where we find it. I have never felt this, I don’t recognise me. Sending you a hug x

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Sending a hug to you as well x

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I feel for you so much, lost my husband a month earlier 18th June, again after a relatively short illness (something to be thankful for).
I don’t know how we can ever get over this - I can’t and somehow it wouldn’t be right to either. My thoughts are with you and all those who feel as we do. It’s horrendous.

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I am thankful that Ray didn’t suffer and because we knew what was coming we said what we wanted and needed to say to each other.

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