My husband passed away on 8th August but his funeral only took place on 24th September. I feel so alone and sad i do not think i can enjoy life any more.
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Hi. I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband. It often feels like the world is attacking us - it feels unfair, makes us feel ever so lonely and broken beyond words. When I lost my person nothing changed after the funeral, if anything it all got worse. You end up sitting in your feelings, people stop talking about your person. Interactions become less frequent. I hope this isn’t the case with you. Every day is a battle for me, I hate waking up and struggle to enjoy things. It’s nearly been a year. There is no rush, life will feel like this for a while but it’s so vital to surround yourself with those who care about you. This community has felt like a warm place to be as all of us are missing someone and need to feel some form of comfort. Sending warm hugs. You can always come back here whenever you need 
xx
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Hi Debs29, it is very early, just 8 weeks for you and I’m sending hugs. I remember feeling those horrific feelings, the absolute enormity of it all, being completely overwhelmed and the pointlessness of carrying on. My husband, my world, died 5 months ago after 4 months diagnosed with stomach cancer. Today I have been to work, filled the car with fuel, eaten a small dinner, I have a chimney sweep in the morning and am planning a day out on Saturday. I have cried every day for 5 months, but… now I am able to function in between the tears.
Keep talking to him, involve him, ask his view on things and imagine his response. It’ll be ok, not as we had planned or hoped, but ok.
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Thank you Sienna2 
and to you, it is unfair, you’re right xx
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Debs29 .its been almost 2 years since I lost my gorgeous beautiful late wife sue and i talk to her every day and ask her opinions about everything. I miss my gorgeous beautiful wife sue so much. You have to keep on fighting for life and honouring his memory xx
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My husband died on the 24th. I am still numb and nauseous but I keep putting one foot in front of the other. If I stop to think about the enormity of it all, I will collapse and I have too many responsibilities to just collapse. Honestly, take it one hour at a time. It is all I can do. For this hour, I will not collapse into a puddle but rather accomplish XYZ. Staying busy with tedious chores, but not leaving the house is how I am for now. Whatever your method to handle your life is okay. We will survive, others do and so will we. Peace.
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Thank you. I’m sorry you’re having to go through this as well. I have been out this afternoon to a craft group I go to. I wasn’t looking forward to it but now I have been I think I’ll be able to go back each week. I’m still sorting through my husband’s items not that I’m getting rid off any of his stuff just making sure I know what I have to get done. I have been in the house all week and that is why I decided I want to go out and my friends were encouraging me to go, which did me good but when I got home it hit me all over again that my hubby was gone.
Hope you are doing okay and that you have a better day today xx
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I’m so sorry you are hurting, my partner died on the 16.Aug, My heart hurts so much, I don’t know how or who I am anymore, we met each other at 15yrs old and have been together nearly 40 yrs. I feel lost ,
Ter
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We understand. We really do. We are all lost. But, I am 100% sure we will survive. We have no choice but to keep living. I am envious that you had so much time with your loved one and wish my husband and I had met earlier in life, but so grateful we met. I am focusing on the wonderful life we shared and how lucky we were to live it together. Peace be upon you. May your memories be sweet.
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Thank you so much ,
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I know what you mean and feel the same but I find the support and encouragement on this page is helpful, I hope you find some comfort here x
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So sorry for all your losses - my lovely husband passed away 14 weeks ago today. Meltdowns are constant and often happen unexpectedly. My sister keeps telling to celebrate my successes no matter how small - and sometimes getting out of bed is a success! But I so miss him and feel so alone. I have no family or friends close by - and it is difficult though it never bothered me before. It is the complete absence which is so difficult - I feel lost and am not sure I know who I am anymore.
Hugs to everyone and take care
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Yes it’s very hard to go forward I don’t know how or if I can go forward. I was married to Ian for 41 years I met him when I was 16 and we had been together ever since. I go to bed at night a lay there unable to sleep until I just knock out. In the morning I’m waking up at the same time ian got up each morning, not a lot of sleep going on. I have not come to terms with his death and I’m just trying to get through each day the best way possible.
How do we move forward??
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I ask myself that everyday I wake up how am I going to do this without him for the rest of my life, I am just going thru the motions of the day , with a pain in my heart that is such intense pain. People keep telling me it will get better in time, but at this time I don’t think it is. Hugs to you all, I am new to this site but reading your post make me feel like I’m not alone and you all know how I feel.
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Dear Friends, do not think of the future or even today. Take life hour by hour for now. Instead of “how do I live without him/her?” wake and ask yourself “what will I do this hour?”.
I find it easier to limit my thoughts to tiny amounts of time. The “future” is too scary.
Having been through a few deaths and extreme mourning, I know that it does get easier with the passage of time. I also know that there is no method by which to rush the process of grief, no pills to make it go away and no words that fill the void.
Understand that grief is normal and the pain will ease. People say a year, maybe so, but it never goes away completely, it just gets less painful.
I am so sorry. Peace be with you.
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Thank you for replying I think I will try hour by hour and see if I can focus on one thing each day even if it’s just getting dressed and maybe take the dog for a little walk. Thank you all for your responses I’m very grateful. X
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