Lots of ifs and buts

It’s tough strong together if it was not for my son and daughter and family there would not be any point I make the most of it when we together but some how I feel a spare part get togethers are never the same are they never thought that he would have ended his life the way he did to raw to write it down at min nice to message you and share our feeling on here
Big hug xx

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I am sure that the ifs and buts and blaming ourselves is part of grief. As the saying goes, it’s easy to be wise in retrospect. None of us wanted to be in this position and we did the best we could with the knowledge and situation we were in. We’ve lost our loves but we aren’t to blame. That we search our minds and hearts to find what we got wrong shows how much we care and miss that person. We are all searching for some peace and acceptance of what we can’t change. It’s a tall order! It’s hard to be kind to ourselves when everything seems wrong and awful but we deserve some self compassion. X

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@Nell2 100% - here’s to love, for those we continue to love even though they are not right here, and for us, those left to pick up the pieces and carry on. x

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