My mam died in a care home on the 3 December 2024 only 2 days ago. She had a huge stroke 5 years ago and she lost her mobility, independence and could no longer live in her house. She lived longer than I thought. I had a traumatic childhood but still loved mam. My dad has been dead for 30 years. I don’t have a good brother and sister. But I am lucky to have a good son. I helped mum all my life and they didn’t speak to mam for years. Then they found out about mams savings and they wanted to know her then. My sister is very selfish. I walked into the care home man was dead on the floor. My sister sat looking down at the floor. I had to say don’t you want a cuddle. My brother gave me a cuddle as soon as I went in. We sat 6 hours with mam on the floor for someone to take her to the chapel of rest. I had to leave my mum was still lying on the floor. I can’t go to the funeral I know my sister will start trouble. I feel lost. Sorry this is long.
Hello @Angela16 ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your mam. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
Thank you very much for your understanding it has comforted me to read your words.