So have been with my husband almost 29 years, more than half my life, married for 18 years. I have been really struggling the past 18 month’s as i have not been in love with him for a long time and love him more as a friend than partner and i have tried so hard to get pass these feelings. I just dont want to be in this marriage no more.
Redone, if everyone told the truth, most of us went through a similar experience during our marriage. The love changes and is actually stronger than the “in love” phase. It is where we love them unconditionally, deeply, and forever, despite the faults and flaws we’ve come to know.
For better or worse, the commitment is really “I won’t desert you, leave you alone and will be here for as long as we are both alive”.
Don’t do anything, just let time pass, and see how you feel in a year or so.
This is my opinion only.
If you are being abused, then all bets are off. Leave.
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Hello Redone76
I’m from the Online Community Team, and I can see you are new here. I’m sorry to hear about your marriage.
Just so you are aware, the Sue Ryder Online Bereavement Community provides support to anybody over the age of 18 who is caring for someone at the end of their life and to anybody in need of bereavement support.
You might want to reach out to Relate at relate.org.uk who can help with relationship issues and counselling.
You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or support services in your local area
You can use the NHS IAPT scheme to search for psychological therapies in your local area: Find an NHS talking therapies services - NHS
Take care, Rhi