There’s a moment that happens to every grieving person.
You’re going about your day and it hits you. Not the big grief, the quiet kind, the kind that shows up when you least expect it.
You drive past somewhere you used to go together and your body reacts before your brain does. You hear their name in a crowd and your entire body stops. You’re mid-laugh and then suddenly you’re not. And in that moment, the absence feels total.
A quote from Mitch Albom’s book The Five People You Meet in Heaven.
He wrote, “Lost love is still love. It takes a different form, that’s all. You can’t see their smile or bring them food or tousle their hair or move them around a dance floor. But when those senses weaken, another heightens - memory. Memory becomes your partner. You nurture it, you hold it, you dance with it.”
Lost love is still love. Not past tense, not finished - Still.
Because here’s the truth about grief; the love doesn’t stop it just loses its usual way of moving through the world. It can’t travel through a phone call anymore, it can’t sit across from you at dinner. So it finds another way.
It lives in who you are becoming. The way you listen more closely, offer kindness without question. The way you love people differently now, because you know in a way you never did before exactly what it means to lose them.
It lives in the stories you keep telling. The ones that people say, “They sound like they were really something.” Because they were. And you are the only one who can make sure the world keeps knowing that.
That’s the love still finding places to go. You don’t move on from the people you love, you move forward carrying them.
And the memory? That becomes your partner, your future. You hold it.
And on the days when grief feels like it might take you under, remember these words.
Let the memory lead you. And dance.
Beautifully written. Thank you.
Hi Alone that was lovely
Wishing you all the best
Tom
Very, very touching 
!
Comforting and saddening at the same time.
Here is another one which is also both comforting and saddening.
Kind regards - Joe
Oh Joe, it has made me cry. I was watching a video last night about these things happening and I’ve experienced so many by now that I could write a book. Many signs from my most beloved husband that I saved in my phone to be sure that I wasn’t dreaming or to find a comfort in it just the way I Iook at them… they’re true! I can’t stop crying today, but I constantly try to stay mentally sane… I’m getting to the state of being full of anger about people who did hurt us badly and intentionally… and it’s my husband’s adopted daughter-the most cruel human being I’ve ever met…
God bless!
Janka