Don’t worry … you can only do what you can do x.
Thank you. I know that really but I also know that in this case I could and should have done more.
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I gound it hard to go to meetings tbh … i went to the one in skipton.once amd then didnt go again … just do what you can and dont be too hard on yourself ! X
Got there just before 12 in the end but just sat outside looking at the make up of thre group - books by covers perhaps but I’ll not be going again.
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Aw … didnt you really like it ? Thats a shame - wasnt that thrilled with it myself eiher - theres a sue ryder in bingley ya know if you can travel ? xx
On the way in after the Yorkshire Clinic? Thank you. It’s quite possible that Im too scared and too fragile to try the group thing and Im looking for excuses. Maybe I’ve got a very false impression of who I am (just made the mistake of looking in the mirror and Ive aged at least 10 years in the last 2 months so perhaps so) or maybe Im just a very unpleasant person these days - probably all 3?
Being brutally honest, no matter how awful it makes me, all I saw was a group of women of a certain age and type and just one man, and decided I wouldn’t fit in. The women thing is particularly odd. Having spent my working life in a very female dominated environment I’m used to being surrounded by women and actually feel far more comfortable that way - I’d certainly open up more.
Maybe I’m not ready yet. It had been coming for a long time but it’s only 6 weeks and two and a half hours since I finally lost my wife. Or just maybe, nobody is Jill.
Thank you for taking the time to keep in contact It helps.
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No worries . I get it … its the most devastating loss isnt it losing your partner… it takes time to heal. Be patient with yourself and baby steps as my mum used to say. I lost her 3 months ago which hasnt helped either. One of the worse things about getting older 
losing these wonderful people xx
I’m so sorry to see that you’ve lost your mum too. Life’s pretty cruel at best. Might heart goes out to you.
On a different note, did you try the Bingley group or know anyone who hasor shall I just add it to my list of possibles that I never made the effort to try?
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I would try the Bingley group, or the Skipton group, I am Ilkley. I haven’t been to either. If anyone would would like to meet West Yorkshire outside of municipal confines in favour of a coffee shop and a bun, I would welcome
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Thanks for that - it has been a truly awful time recently tbh … losing your husband then your mum its been bloody awful ;( you really couldnt make it up could you ?
I havent tried it no i just know there is one
I found talking on here the best and ive made friends with people from here that im still friends with - means a lot cos they understand what grief is like xx
A brew and a bun sounds good though a pint of Black Sheep is pretty appealing too!
Yes must admit I peek first and if don’t feel confident don’t go through with it.
Sometimes have gone ahead and sat it out but if after few weeks don’t manage to filter through I give up but I know it does take time. Sometimes it is hard to break through cliques.