@Jay15 I’m so sorry for the pain your grief is bringing you. Having a very simple daily routine which includes eating something and getting outside will help you feel better physically. Our loved ones surely would not want us to be suffering so we owe it to them to keep trying. Have you got anyone around you could talk to or who could help you? Xx
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Im sorry to hear that, im not surprised, i know i have changed too. Life is not the same at all. Im not bothered about my health either, people say go to doctors but id rather not. I had to have routime blood tests last week and normally id be worried about the results but I was honestly deeply dissapointed that they were all normal.
I wish I could get a message from my beaitif wife to say all is well, she is happy and that I should get on with life to be ready to meet her again soon. Its what I beleive but so long a message.
Its had to be bothered with anything isnt it?
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Thank you, im sure you are right. Its very strange, its like Im not allowing myself to move on because maybe im afraid of loosing the closeness of my beautiful wife being with me. Maybe I feel why should I be happy eating whith her not with me. I also feel I have nobody to do anything for or to love, just little things like chats and comong home with a cake for us.
The bigger things like going on holiday are Im sure partly me feeling sorry for myself?
I keep trying to analyse and rationalise but theres no logic or solution to being back with my beautiful wife.
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Take baby steps one day at a time. Go out for a walk or do 1 job in the house and each day do a little bit more. Today, I hung some photos on the wall that my hubby was going to do when we moved in, one was our wedding photo from 34years ago, I actually felt happy looking at it and only a few tears. Small steps but going in the right direction.
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Well done in putting photo up, to others that is minimal to us it’s huge step forward. It’s doing things when we feel we can and we are all so different in what and when we can do something. I e had good few days until yesterday when my sons death certificate came, meltdown happened, but trying to regroup again. Take care xx
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Thanks. Yes i have my son and normally phone him but i feel i can’t keep calling on him. He’s been through enough. My friend says I’m too independent but i realised i can’t keep asking people for things. I would.much rather do it myself. Once i get over these aches I’ll be fine.
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I know it’s weird how you feel. Hopefully one day it will improve. I don’t trust my doctor he’s made so many mistakes with me. One of them that caused.me to fall. When I’m on my feet again I’m going to change doctors. Have you any pets?.ive got my old dog that keeps me going. He’s 17yrs now but as I’m too old for a puppy i will foster a dog. I think it.helps if you’ve got something to care for. Take care
Great advice @Punto , definitely take each day at a time. Grit your teeth and keep going! Think about what your loved one would say if they could see you… (Believe they can and that they are urging you on to live for them…
) xx
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No, definitely reach out to others for help. Now is your time for asking… Keep going, each day at a time. Xx
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At the moment i don’t think anyone will come near me. I’ve felt really awful the last few days even fainted on Sunday. Ached all over and thought i had a cold through being run down. Well i tested myself for covid and yes i tested positive. Looks like I’ll be more isolated than ever. Oh well it gives me something else to worry about . I wouldn’t mind but i haven’t been anywhere but heard it’s going about. Take care.
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I’ve got Covid too. Symptoms not too bad but isolating as much as I can. Still need to go out for food but not going to activities. Feeling tired, sleeping a lot. Maybe a good thing as past 18 weeks have worn me out. Enforced rest is giving me a breathing space, it is good to just let everything go. Hopefully gain some perspective on things, a long way to go yet. Hope your symtoms improve soon and you can get some rest.
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Yes you’re right. I’m totally worn down. It’s not easy everything to sort out etc. Ive got away with it so far but now it’s got me. Managed to take dog out for small walk but don’t think I’d make it shopping. Probably do it on line not that I’m eating much. My husband had a lung transplant 21yrs ago so i was always extra careful with him. Avoided crowds and doing shopping in my own. Unfortunately he ended up in A&E with pneumonia and caught covid in there. He didn’t stand a chance. Just grateful for the extra 21yrs together. Hope you feel better soon. This is all we need isn’t it.
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Hope you feel better soon and then able to mix with others.
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Thankyou. I’ve had to put my son and his wife from coming today which hasn’t helped but must say having this has made my mind up. I’ve got to pull myself together and stop moping about. Do something positive like moving. Where to i don’t know. Wanted to move for ages but couldn’t because of my husbands job. Take care
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@Jay15 when you feel better from Covid set up a little daily routine for yourself. Read through the advice on websites or borrow some books about grief from the library… You’ll find lots of guidance and advice for how you can try to get through the days. I’m not saying it’s going to take away all of your grief but you owe it to yourself to try and have the best days possible at this difficult time. You need the physical strength to help you manage the emotional pain, that’s what I‘ve found…xx
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Hi John
My husband’s name was John and I still miss him every day and its been more than 2 years for me. I want to be with him too and someday I will be.
Its very hard, one of the hardest thing you can go through in life. If you need someone to talk to I am here.
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