Has anyone noticed that “Lonely” hasn’t posted for a while? I always enjoyed reading her posts, I hope she is okay?
Dottie x💕
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Dottie72
I thought exactly the same earlier today. Hopefully she’s on holiday. I do hope so.
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I tried to click on her profile and it doesn’t seem to be there anymore? Xx😔
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So glad you hear from you! I really do enjoy reading your posts! So good to have you back!
Big hugs
Dottie x❤️
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Lonely
So pleased to hear you are okay. I missed your posts. Big hugs.
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@Lonely
Glad to hear you’re back! Don’t want to add any pressure but as a relative ‘newbie’ on this path, the wisdom you bring is very much valued xx
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Lonely
I remember just the same scene as you described. Paul and I started dating in 1963. It was Windsor where we went to the cinema and it was just as you describe. Like you, my heart aches for that time.
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Glad to see you back lonely x
Dear lonely
Yes I so agree with you. The memories come flooding back. The only thing I can’t do is listen to the songs he sang to me. I just can’t take that as I’m soon sobbing. If I’m in one of my sons cars and those songs comes on I have to ask them to turn it off. I Got You Babe by Sonny and Cher is one. Hugs Carol
Dear Lonely
Yes our older sons loved the Incredible Hulk. They are 50 and 52. The 50 year older convinced himself he was the Hulk. He certainly had the rage in them days. Not now I’m pleased to add. Carol x
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Hi Sheila
Pleased to see you havent ditched the forum. I have felt like you on many occasions. “What do I have to offer” and then every so often you feel the need to offer some support. We are all travelling a hard road but some of us are further along than others and we have and are surviving in our own way. So if we can show just a few new members this it might give them hope.
Pat xx
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Definitely does .just had YouTube on and some Alan Jackson songs came on and thought of sue snuggling up on the sofa next to me and Teddy and George our two dogs
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Lonely
I can’t see a time when I won’t need the support this forum gives me. It is 2 and a half years now and sometimes it feels just weeks ago. This third year I am in has been a little easier and then I hit a rough time for no reason and I’m back to the start almost. I do appreciate everyone’s support. Thank you all.
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Hi there Sheila
I tend to think that there might be help I can offer someone. I know some new members don’t believe that we can survive this awful journey but we can and we do. I do agree though that the heartache is still there but we learn to pick up the pieces of a life and I think this knowledge might be useful to some members who might be hanging in there by a thread.
Love Pat xxx
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@Pattidot I totally agree with you! Members like you and @Lonely have helped me, I love reading posts from members further down this awful road, it gives me some hope to hold onto…
Big hugs
Dottie xx🌹
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Hi Dottie
Do hang onto that hope. When I do meditation I always ask for faith and hope. I don’t think I am doing too bad and have settled into a life I am happy enough with. I still struggle if I am taken out of my comfort zone which is very unusual for me as I was always the one that coped with difficulties.
I have changed and I never thought it would affect me like this. Good luck to you. Pat xxx
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I do try…
…. Interesting you mention Meditation, do you go to a class or do that at home? I’ve taken up Yoga again, just doing it at home for now. My brother is a real gym/fitness fanatic, he also does Yoga and he desperately wants me to go with him, I will at some point when I’m feeling stronger. He took Martin’s passing really bad as well, he totally believes Yoga is helping him.
Big hugs
Dottie x💕
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Lonely
Dear Sheila
I’m sorry to hear you don’t get out as much as you would like. You’re right though we still come home to an empty house. After Paul died was the first time I had ever lived alone and I did have a grandson living with me for a while. That grandson has now become another grand daughter. I am lucky to be living close to town so if I need a taxi it’s not too expensive but much more costly than it was. I also have a friend who lives close by and she takes me to U3A meetings. However long I live I know I will never stop missing my Paul and wishing I was with him. I really love all my children and grand children but it’s Paul I need and I pray I see him again.
Love Carol
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Lonely
Dear Sheila
I hope you have a lovely holiday in Devon. The only times I’ve been away since Paul died is to Tiverton in Devon to see my older sister with my younger sister. I really can’t face going away with anyone else at the moment. The first time I did it without Paul was hard but I did manage it. Like you, I’m happiest at home or nearby. Paul and I spent all of 2020 locked down until he died 1st December 2020.
It is another lovely day here in Berkshire. Hope it is where you are. hugs Carol
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