Memorial tree and ash scattering

Losing a parent
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I lost my dad suddenly in February this year, and it’s been the hardest 6 months. Especially supporting my young son to navigate the loss of one of his favourite people.

It’s been hard, but now we’re at the stage where a date has been set for the ashes being scattered around a memorial tree. Which is going to be lovely, and somewhere I can take my son to remember his grandpapa. However the nearer it gets, I feel myself spiralling backwards with my emotions. I haven’t moved on at all, I’m still dealing with it, but I’m absolutely dreading the day. Any advice to help me get my head around the whole ash spreading thing? I can’t cope with the loss, and now I’m scared I can’t cope again

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I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad, @mummy-jellyfish. A memorial tree sounds like a lovely idea.

I just want to reassure you that what you’re feeling right now is really normal. Scattering the ashes can feel like quite a big, final event when we’re grieving, and it’s completely understandable that it might make you spiral. You might find it helpful to read our page on how long grief lasts, which talks through some of the emotions that you may go through in the months and years following the loss of a loved one.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support too. I just wanted you to know that you have been heard, and you’re not alone.

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