I’m trying to declutter the house mum & me lived in as a surveyor is doing a valuation for probate on Wednesday. It now seems messier than before even though I’ve taken 3 car loads to the charity shop. It’s really depressing going through things and deciding what to keep and what to let go of.
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Hi @Victoria22 ,
I’m sure someone will be along to share their thoughts, but I just wanted to say thank you for so bravely sharing this with us. Keep reaching out,
Alex
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You’re about a week ahead of me! I’m dreading the clear out. What to throw and what to keep baffles me because I feel like she could come back through the door at any moment.
All I do know is my home is a mess at the minute, I appear to be making more of a mess than anything productive but that’s grief for ya isn’t it… All the best x
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I’m afraid I’ve hardly done any clearing out yet. An old sideboard I never liked and some books is all I’ve got rid if so far. And then I felt guilty.
I can’t bear to look in his wardrobe or start clearing his clothes. I know I’ve got to, but I’m not ready yet. I don’t think I ever will be but I know one day I must do it.
Big hugs to everyone
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Feeling totally overwhelmed by the amount of tidying I need to do before the surveyor values the house on Wednesday. I seem to be making it worse instead of better. I’m at work tomorrow so really only have today to sort it out. Just having a cup of tea before starting again. I feel so tired.
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I expect my parents are having a good laugh if they are looking down at me.
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I hear ya….Big hugs back at ya 
I’ve text my manager and booked tomorrow off work as holiday to try and sort things out. Will also have to try and fit in taking one of my cats to the vets as she’s starting coughing a lot. I just wish something would go well for a change. xx
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@Victoria22 Don’t put pressure on yourself.
Hopefully the surveyor will be understanding. They’re coming to value the house, not to judge how you’re living at the moment.
Some days it probably feels like a win just getting dressed in the morning…
Hugs
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I put the valuation off for a couple of weeks, I 'm not ready. Had to take one of my cats to the vets as she keeps coughing and is wheezy. Have to try and get antibiotics down her now.
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Good for you @Victoria22
Sorry that your cat is poorly, something else you coukd do without but bl**dy well done for putting yourself first!
x
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I am in a similar position. A friend who uses surveyors often in her business tells me not to bother about it because surveyors will ignore the clutter. I still feel embarrassed by it. I am also overwhelmed and keep having false starts. I even tried setting an alarm to remind me to just do 30 minutes, but it was too easy to ignore. It is hard.
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It is hard for sure 
sending big hugs 
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