Hello everyone. I’ve longed to become a mam and in October I had a miscarriage, I’m trying so hard every day to remain positive and tell myself one day my dreams will come true but how do I get past this hurt that I have inside? I work in a nursery too and I love how busy it keeps me but when everyone around me is a mother and or is pregnant I’m praying it’s my turn I can’t keep my tears in I’m so emotional at the moment. People say at least I can fall pregnant but I don’t think that’s the right thing to say I’m lost xx
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Hello @Emma26,
I can see that you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I am so sorry for the loss of your baby that brings you here. I can imagine it must feel incredibly painful when it feels like everyone around you is a mother or pregnant.
Although people often mean well, comments such as “at least you can get pregnant” can be unhelpful. It is important to acknowledge the sadness and grief that you are experiencing.
It’s completely understandable that you’re feeling emotional, lost and overwhelmed. I wanted to share some sources of support that might help you right now.
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Tommy’s support anyone with the loss of a baby. They have a helpline on 0800 0147 800 or email midwife@tommys.org. They also have a baby loss support Facebook group.
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The Miscarriage Association offers emotional support and advice. They have a helpline on 01924 200799, or you can email them at info@miscarriageassociation.org.uk
Sue Ryder also has some resources which can help you cope with grief.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Thank you again for sharing - please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Harriet