As the months pass by I just miss talking to my Mum so much. I have lost the one person who I just phone and talk to about anything or nothing. I have lots of friends and a lovely husband but it just doesn’t compare. I could just phone my Mum to chat about nothing. I find myself doing stuff and then thinking I will phone her to tell her stuff but then the realisation hits that she isn’t here anymore. It hurts so much.
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Hi @Lujo,
Thank you so much for sharing this with the community 
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to let you know that you have been heard and you are not alone.
Take good care,
Alex
Hi @Lujo,
So sorry for your loss. I feel the exact same, lost my mum 1.5 years ago, she was my best friend and I too could just call and talk about anything with her and I miss that dearly 
My husband is great too, but it’s not the same venting or sharing with him, I need my mums wise words. I use to still send my mum texts after she passed, it helped. I don’t do it anymore, maybe I need to start again. Sending hugs xx
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Hi @FeeBell thank you for your reply. I am sorry about your Mum too 
. Mums always had the right words to say. It’s just so final - no matter what we do or say they aren’t ever coming back I find that so difficult. I listen to some voice notes just to remember what she sounded like.
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Im sorry for your loss.
Its hard when we lose such a big part of our lives.
And i agree sometimes because we are grown up with our own families its like we can be made to feel our parents dont mean as much to us anymore.
But they do, they have been the one constant in our lives and now theyre not there.
Since losing my dad ive gone to phone him so many times.
Now i keep a notebook my by bed and write down things i was going to tell him, or how im feeling. Probably sounds silly but in a way its like im still talking to him.
Hope this helps xx
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Is it normal to feel this numb after losing my mum ? I feel so sad that she’s not here anymore. She was really poorly for months and now is at peace , with my dad . Together again.
I just keep thinking, I will ring her or pop in to see how she is today , check her meds etc … but now nothing.
100 miles an hour rushing around looking after her and worrying if she’s ok , then nothing.
That’s how I feel .
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Sorry for the loss of your mum. I lost my mum 14 weeks ago and I feel exactly the same as you.
It’s weird when you think right I will go and give mum a phone then you realise oh I can’t. Don’t know why our brains do that to us?? Is it because we have been so used to doing that before like a force of habit? X
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