My mum passed away 13 weeks ago and I am still struggling to cope with the loss as I lived full time with my mum it’s so hard wondering what to do how to cope
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I lost my mum in May 2025 cause of death stomach, bone and liver cancer she gradually declined in health loss of appetite, nausea, weight loss and bone pain. She fell downstairs at my parents house went into palliative care in hospital before she sadly passed away 
i only had 4 days to prepare for the funeral in her hometown shes now in heaven with her parents and younger disabled brother my dad was so strong doing the eulogy paying tribute to his wife my mum not crying as had Practice from 2024 when my grandmother died. Take each day as it comes, find coping mechanisms in the things you and your mum enjoy eg same radio stations, dancing, looking through photographs of her and talking to samaritans phoneline about how you feel. This is how i cope with her not been alive anymore but i do feel life is hard and the dark clouds gradually lift … i tell myself she died having done all she wanted with her life age 68. Made a Facebook donation page for cancer research or for old friends family of my mum to either listen to smooth radio northwest and think of the amazing nhs who saves lives silently. I felt like life was wearing me down from when she died and being abroad holiday is just what i needed for a long time. Take it easy
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Hi 0205 and sweetwoman,
I’m not coping at all and having counselling and think I need to continue doing so as miss my mum something terrible. I lived with her and was her carer and now I’m so lonely and feel empty inside. Part of me went with her and I just can’t believe it. She passed away in March but it seems an eternity that my life has changed and as she was in hospital quite a bit last few months before she passed it seems to me like she’s somewhere and will be coming back. How do I continue living without her, can someone tell me? Xx
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I’m so sorry for your loss 
it’s such a difficult time for you only a few weeks in… I am still struggling and it’s only a few years but seems like months tbh
I bought a water filter like she used to have and I couldn’t finish assembling it to use even though it cost a lot of money and I was excited… sounds silly but it’s sat half assembled on my wardrobe now… I know she’d love that I bought it and would want me to use it
I feel the exact same as you. My mum passed away in March at Sue Ryder hospice.
I was her carer and lived with her - she was my best friend.
I’m Struggling terribly and having therapy as my worries and anxiety is out of control.
I just try and live each day but there’s no joy in any day, and I don’t remember the last time I felt positive.
I know it’s doesn’t help but I want you to know your not alone in how your feeling xx
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