I lost my partner 30.12.2024. We had been together 38 years. It was very sudden in the night. Not sure what yet. Needs to go the corenor. I miss him so much. We shared so much of our lives. I keep wanting to tell him things that would make him laugh. I don’t want to be without him.
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I feel your pain. Just take a day at a time - it very difficult and will continue to be so for a long long time. My husband died just 6 weeks ago. Sudden too. He was at work. I got a call and I got there quickly to witness the paramedics doing CPR - it was horrid to see. However, he loved his job and never wanted to retire, so in some ways, for him, it was good for him to go while working. But horrific for me and all who knew him. He was 60
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My love was 56. We had been together since school. I went to bed first but I felt sad when I said night night bab. He came to bed later and he would usually spark up a conversation. Drove me crazy. He did though. I went back off to sleep. Then he made the loudest noise thought he was having night terrors. But I didn’t shake him awake. He seemed to settle with a couple of odd breaths but then I couldn’t hear him breath. I shook him, nothing I tried to see if if was breathing, I couldn’t tell. The only I could do was pull his eyelid open his eyes were fixed and dilated. I knew. But ran downstairs to get the phone. I didn’t know it was so hard to put 999 into the phone. Ambulance operator had me pull him off the bed and work on him, heart massage. Till the crew got there. They worked on him for an hour. They put him back into bed and I got to be with him. He looked like he was sleeping. I kept thinking hoping he would wake up. His shoes are by the settee and he didn’t finish his last coffee. I can’t move them. He should be here. I miss him so much.
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I am so sorry for your loss.
Its very early days for you and everything is very raw
Try to take each day one hour at a time.
Do you have family or friends that can support you during this difficult time
My husband passed away suddenly 6 weeks ago and i miss him so much
This site has helped me alot
Sending hugs x
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My husband died suddenly on 23. 8 . 2024.
He was a young 73. No signs no nothing. He was playing with the grandchildren in the afternoon racing round the garden. We went to our sons for our grandsons 6th birthday for an hour , came home . Had dinner with our kids from London who were up for the weekend to celebrate our 49th wedding anniversary before we were due to go on a cruise 4 days later. The kids watched football with their dad and then chatted for half an hour before going up to bed. I was tired and went up to bed . When Martin didnt come up 15 minutes later I went down to shout at him and found him collapsed on the floor. The paramedics were round in.less than 5 minutes. My daughter who was staying with us was there and within 10.minutes so were my other two children. We all watched helplessly whilst the paramedics worked so hard to save him. As you say above it was so traumatic and so sudden. At 10.30.we were laughing and joking and within an hour our lives were turned upside down. No warning. I still cant process it 4 months later. Im functioning but adrift. So sad as are my children. Im scared too. I am so sorry for all your loss. I was numb for 2 weeks . Now I cry a lot at home and try and put a brave face on outside. Take care everyone x
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I am sorry for your loss thank you for your kind understanding
I feel for you. When you said you were going to shout at him. I feel incredibly sad I didn’t say I love you one last time and I was so grumpy with him.
I lost my hubby on the same day. It’s horrendous I’m so sorry