Not sure about anybody else. But feel like a part of me is missing since my dad died. I cant pinpoint what it is yet after 3 years but want it back. Feel like im not my jolly self and less motivated and got the can’t be bothered attitude.
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@Ward1979, I can only speak as a mum, both of our children are missing their dad, our son especially.
He is struggling with motivation, work, and two teenage daughters. He told me, everything seems an up hill battle, and his dad is no longer here. The man that gives good advice, solves problems, and is there for you no matter what.
A son and dad bond is special, the number of times his dad went out in the early hours to pick him up when he had been out with his mates, unable to get home, and his dad was there at every football match he played as a youngster and was so proud to follow our sons career.
That bond and love will never leave you and it’s only natural you are feeling lost now. Three years is no time at all when you have had a lifetime together. I don’t have the answer, only time.
Don’t be so hard on yourself, take one day at a time .
sending a mums love, Debbie X
@Ward1979 I lost my mum nearly 3 months ago. And like you I feel like I lost a part of me that day. I suppose in a way we did. They made us. They are part of us. So maybe we didn’t lose it all as they are in our blood forever. That’s sounds a bit weird I know. But I know what I mean. It’s a tough time. But I’m hoping it will get easier.
Love and thoughts to you xx
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Hi @nicnic, I believe daughters are angels sent from heaven, mine daughter certainly is. She supported me and her dad through the last few years is his illness and I don’t know what I would have done without her.
I know your mum thinks the same about you, I’ve said to @Ward1979 about the special bond with sons and dad’s, but there is also a special bond between mums and their lovely daughters one that will never be broken even when they are no longer with us. It is so soon for you, you will be heart broken, but in time you will look back and smile thinking of your lovely mum. Love to you, Debbie 
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Thank you Debbie. You are an angel too with all your lovely words of comfort xxx
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Hi @Ward1979, I can really relate to what you have said, I’ve always felt apart of me is missing since my dad died, like my spark has gone out? I think grief has changed me as a person, sending my to everyone too and too @Debbie57 and @nicnic xxxx
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When we all lose someone we love, mum, dad, brother, sister, partner, I think a little of us dies with them, that is why the pain is so hard to bear. Stay strong it will get easier, but you will never ever forget, they will be in your hearts forever
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Yes @Debbie57 that is so true, we are never the same person anymore after we lose a loved one 
thankyou for your lovely words xxxx
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Debbie57,
That’s really well put that a little of us dies with them.
That’s what it feels like. I would also say that there’s a ‘heaviness’ to everything. I look back at any photos I took from before my mothers death and they feel like a different life.
It’s been six months since my mother passed and with a few life pressures (landlord issues, decisions on future) the grief is more intense than ever. All emotions are feeling intense.
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Hi am missing my dad too. He was such a brilliant dad and always there for me my rock.Its3 years ago this Wednesday and it still hurts so much
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