Hi
I lost my Dad suddenly in March and my Mum in 2022. I’m really struggling this Christmas. I don’t have much social support where I have room to feel and be where I am - I feel broken and hopeless with no reason to keep going. I just want a hug and a cry. I give up
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I’m so sorry! I’ve lost both parents too and this Christmas has been a nightmare, though it’s the second one without them. It’s hard when you don’t have much support. I have no magic words, I struggle with hopelessness every single day, but I wanted to let you know I can relate. 
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Thank you. I’m sorry for your losses too. Hugs. My marriage is not the best and to be honest is making things much harder in my grief when I just need support and stability to work through the pain.
It helps to vent where people care and understand. I managed to keep myself busy on Christmas day but since then I’ve mostly been doing nothing in pjs and trying to be alive. What about you?
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Christmas is full of expectations to be happy which makes things worse and the empty days make space for sad thoughts. We have had a sad Christmas this year as I lost my Dad in September and a childhood friend in November. I think things will feel easier in January.
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This is my 3rd Christmas without mum and dad! Lost mum suddenly in February 22 and dad from cancer 8 months later in October 22. I actually think this has been the worst Christmas so far, because my sons getting older all the presents and excitement are over with quicker in the day. So a lot more time to think about who’s missing and what they are missing.
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My mum also is gone, she died from cancer back in 2012. My kids are teenagers now. Getting older is hard!
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Im so sorry you are feeling like this. I have lost both my parents to and this is the 1st christmas without my dear mum. Its been a real struggle but i have taken time out when i needed and didnt put any unnecessary pressure on myself. Take time for you and grieve in the way you need to. Maybe try and do things differently this year. Me and my mum had lots of traditions and i didnt do any of them this year, it just didnt feel right, but i tried to make new traditions with my children. My thoughts are with you, and please always reach out if you are struggling. Sending love and hugs
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