Hi new here Dad passed first dementia when mum found she had pancreatic cancer then Mum 2mths later. After caring for mum 24/7 from may to august 2024.
All such a shock to us all especially caring for mum right till she passed at home. so glad i did too, with my sister an brother.I think the hardest was after mum funeral my sister wouldnt let me in mum & dads home.which i felt would of helped with my grieving. Instead sister bother just shut me out after living together for 3mth with mum caring.
I feel they just dumped me and that hurt so much.They cut me off not contact.
All i wanted to do was grief with them, as they said whilst in mums house you have help us all through mum & dad illnesses.
So i now feel ive lost not only parents but siblings too.
All i can do is hold onto the memories.
They wont do committal cermony for mum either. I cant contact them as they blocked all calls.
Such loss all round and if i didnt have my children i dont know what i’d of done.
In fact this grief helped me in meditations daily.
Im starting to feel the guilts gone which grief throws at you. An decided they arent here anymore.But i know where they are Happy together again mum & dad true love story.
Im glad i took videos of them dancing talk too.
I know not same them as in the pshyical.
I will say Crying will heal you more then you know. They are always in our hearts.
Thanks Bluewaters x