My beautiful Deb’s passed away on the 10th March and I miss her so much. Today I collected her ashes which has really knocked me sideways.
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I feel and share your pain…
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My heart goes out to you @Davidroy
You’ll find support from others here who can truly empathise, because we’ve been through the same, or similar experience.
I’m wishing you all the best David…I know it’s only early days for you…but the trauma and sting of loss does ease a little and becomes manageable further down the road. I know this as I’ve been through it.
But for now, just accept support from family and friends as much as possible.
Take care my friend.
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Oh sweetheart, I so relate and understand. Collecting my beautiful Micks ashes hit me harder than the night he passed away in my arms. Its just so hard to comprehend the love of our lives being reduced to ashes. It doesnt compute or make sense. You are in shock my lovely, there are so many official formalities to deal with that we dont have space to grieve in the first few weeks, and I really resented that. Its incredibly cruel and painful. Your wife is absolutely beautiful. She will always be your wife. I refuse to accept im a widow. I will always be my beloved late husbands wife. Sending love and healing thoughts into your heart 
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Thank you, and I am sending strength love and best wishes back to you
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Bless you darling. Just take your time and be gentle and kind to yourself xx
@Davidroy. I am so very sorry for your loss. We had the interment of my husband’s ashes today in the beautiful memorial park. It was very hard and I felt worse about that than I did about the funeral. You are very early in your grief and probably still in shock. Take one hour at a time. Be very kind to yourself. I hope you have a good support network around you. 4 or 5 of us meet up on a zoom link a couple of times a week if you would like to join us. You can just listen or you can talk, whatever you like. It’s very informal and friendly. The next one will be on Tuesday evening. There are men and women who join. It would be nice to meet you. Wishing you love and strength. Jean xx.
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I feel your pain . I lost my gorgeous fantastic wife sue on the first of February this year due to pancreatic cancer. Were here for you if you want to rant scream or chat
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The pain is on so many levels - emotional, mental and deeply physical. Having lost my husband of over 40 years there are really no words but I have found some comfort in reading books on Grief: Its OK that you’re not OK by Megan Devine. I have also listened to lots of podcasts on grief. None of it makes it better but it helps to know that others understand the depth of what you are going through. Of course it may be too early days for you to do anything other than get through each moment of each day. sending my best wishes
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I am so sorry Davidroy. Stay strong [quote=“Davidroy, post:1, topic:65683, full:true”]
My beautiful Deb’s passed away on the 10th March and I miss her so much. Today I collected her ashes which has really knocked me sideways.
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thinking of you😢
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I’m so so sorry you are suffering.
Your wife is beautiful.
My horrendous journey of loss is just beginning. I need to start planning his funeral tomorrow, and can’t imagine collecting his ashes in the near future.
I can’t make any of this horror happening to us all disappear but I can add my voice to offer support
T xx
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Thinking of you.i have this to come shortly .were all here for you
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Were all here for you .my family were and a big help especially when planning the funeral. Plus the funeral directors were really helpful in answering any questions and arranging things .i couldn’t have done it with the help of my wonderful family and friends .if you need anything like to talk rant scream then were all on the same journey x
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did my brians alone but it was amazing. i had a cd played of him singing any dream will
do then our wedding hymns and my brother did a lovely eulogy . I have some of his ashes in a charm on my pandora bracelet
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So sorry to hear this and I know exactly what you are now going through, let me know if you need any help or want to talk. Sending strength love and best wishes
Thank you so much. T x
I,ve got a lock of sues hair in a piece of jewellery that i wear on a chain round my neck x
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Martyn2, that is so lovely x unfortunately my Rich lost all his hair and big beard to chemo. you have made me think of getting his wedding ring resized so I can wear it next to mine x
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