I lost my husband 5 years ago after 46 years of marriage but am missing him more each day that goes by. We didn’t have children so we did everything together and he was the love of my life. I am so lonely, am getting more and more depressed and can’t wait for my life to end. Don’t have anyone I can talk to.
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Sorry for your loss it doesnt matter if it 5 years or 10 years the feeling of loss is the same. I lost my husband nearly 2 years ago and I’m still struggling . We to didn’t have children so i can relate to you there. But you do have people to talk to all of us on this forum . We are all going through the same emotions we are all at different stages of this dreadful journey so can help each other. Keep talking on here there’s always someone that will listen. Sending hugs xx
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thank you for replying, will try and keep in touch
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Just came in here to read how you all was managing this life we did not want
It’s been two years since I lost my husband so suddenly I will never come to terms with it still plodding along I ask hime to come and get me but guess it’s not time it is so lonely in the house with out him so I understand how you are all felling we was married 45 yrs so have not known life with out him as same goes for you
Sending hugs xx
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than k you for replying. It was sudden with my husbands death, just five months from diagnosis until he passed away. As you say we will never come to terms with it, still go through last hours with him nearly every night. Thought I would have felt better after 5 years but it seems to be getting worse, having no family makes things worse. Don’t where I go from here, keep asking to leave this world but still here. Sending you a big hug, hope things get better for you
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@caronia232 my husband death was very sudden at Christmas. I went to work on the Saturday and Sunday my son rang me to say that dad had collapsed. Time I got home he was gone. He was 53 years old and we had just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. No time to say I love you and not prepared for this awful life. Life is so unfair and cruel. Our future plans and dreams have been robbed.
I am sorry that you are still struggling with out your husband. I am not looking forward to the future and have been told to take one day at a time. Do you belong to any support groups or any other type of groups? Xx
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HI, so sorry you lost your husband so suddenly, at least I had 5 months to get my head around it although I didn’t have time to think about it as my husband said we had to move. We lived in a beautiful detached bungalow but knew I would very nervous living there on my own so within 48hrs we had bought a flat and sold our bungalow. We managed to move into the flat just weeks before he died. He was such a h oarder so spent our last few months clearing out. I laugh about it still now as a niece asked if she could have a screwdriver and was given 15. He kept everything always saying it might come in handy one day. I did goto a CRUSE bereavement group for a while but don’t go now. Its good that you have children, they will help through the dark times and it helps a great deal if you can talk about your husband, I find it keeps him partly alive but don’t have anyone I can talk to about him very often. Wherabouts in the country do you live. Stay strong and your memories will help
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@caronia232 thank you for your kind reply. I have one son who is 23 now. It must of been so hard for you and your husband to come to terms with having such a short time together and then to have to sell your home which you both shared together. Because my husband died suddenly we had to have a post mortem report and I was shocked to find out that he died from a rear saddle pulmonary embolism due to kidney cancer which he never knew he had. My husband lost weight but I never noticed which I feel guilty about. Wish I notice but was too late time I did. I went to a support group course which was helpful and they have given me lots of links if any help to you with meeting other people in the same position as us. I live in Norfolk not far from Norwich. Big hugs xx
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good to hear back from you. I don’t think support links will help me, nothing will put a sparkle back into my life. Managed to see my Dr recently but all he did was give me more tablets which I started to take but have now stopped them. What I need is a very good friend who would listen to me and give me big hugs when needed but although I know a few people, none would fit that bill. Take care
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