Your son sounds amazing and well and truly loved by you, his memory will live on in your grandchildren. Please, please don’t feel guilty about being alive. Your family need you more than you realise. But when you are well enough you will cherish them as we do ours.
Caren was very unlucky trying to have children and a ten year relationship abruptly came to an end. She met a coercive and abusive man. She just fell for him which made her unwell. She suffered a severe panic attack and took too many tablets to stop it. We don’t really know what happened but we believe he was involved. We have to wait for the inquest which is very difficult.
Caren was attractive, beautiful inside and out, she would help everyone but was unable to help herself.
Please take care of yourself. We need to learn how to cope for our family, but only when we are ready. Sending hugs to you.
I don’t mind if you want to chat. In your own time if you feel you want to.
It’s 16 months since my son left (his choice). I know if we had somehow stopped him, he would be with us today. He had everything going for him. He was so loved. He was handsome, smart with many friends. Who would think anxiety & insomnia would do this to a person. I am still struggling and am thinking of going back into therapy. I see young man on tv or out and about that look like him. He was the sweetest man, with the big beautiful blue eyes. I know you all know what I am going through and thank you for sharing. I hope you all are stronger than me, but I will keep trying. 
I am trying to survive this ‘new’ life. My grandson has been keeping me going everyday, but today I just want to curl up in a ball.
I’m sorry to hear your daughter met someone like that, we just want the best for our children and for them to be happy and safe. The inquests seem to take a long time too and bring more heartache. She sounds very loved in a loving family and had so much to give and live for. I hope you get some answers.
I think that’s all we can do - try, try to survive this after chapter. It’s so hard. Sending my love to you.
Your son sounds like he was a lovely man. Like our daughter who had so many friends. She was loved by everyone
Our daughter took too many of the prescribed medication for anxiety to over come the attack, but we don’t know any more facts until the inquiry. In hindsight we blame ourselves because we couldn’t see how bad she was struggling with anxiety attacks.
I am waiting to hear if I can start counselling, I think I need it as I feel guilty.
We need to look after ourselves, even though it’s so difficult. 
We loved her dearly but she was always saying she felt worthless. We kept reassuring her that she was a lovely person but she never felt it herself.
I hope we get answers but it won’t bring her back. My tears are endless as I can realise every mum going through this is the same.
We can think of each other through this unbearable journey and try to get strength from each other. 
Yes we must, we are in so much pain. I’m sending my love to you. Message me anytime x
Thank you. And if you need a chat anytime I am here.
Thinking about you
Thank you. It’s going to be so difficult tomorrow as it is Caren’s 34th birthday. She only passed away 11 weeks ago. We are devastated 
Thinking about you too. Tomorrow will be very hard. We had Sam’s 31st 10weeks after. We stayed indoors in our bubble. Couldn’t face anyone. The whole week was very difficult.
I can’t believe it’s happened, I’m sure you feel the same. Lost and broken. X
We will stay at home too. Our two boys and their family will visit along with my best friend, Caren’s Godmother. We just want to reflect and think of Caren.
Our beautiful Caren. We too can’t believe it, I wish her back home every single day, just to walk through the door. 
Sending hugs to you Lisa.
Hi All
I lost my only son in June aged 27 and am heartbroken as is my husband. It is comforting ( in a weird way) knowing that I am not alone and the crying, not wanting to get out of bed etc is “normal”.
We have also had what would have been his 28th birthday in this short time….we managed a walk and some time with his friends but then collapsed for 24hours and couldn’t sleep.
Keeping you all in my thoughts……we are in this together even if we don’t know each other.
Stay strong xx
I’m so sorry we are here. I know what you mean (in a weird way) too. I felt and still feel lonely. It makes you feel like you are mad, doesn’t it. I’m sending you my love as we go through this awful life as different people now x
My thoughts are with you. I hope you and your husband stay strong for each other. It’s so painful with an emptiness in the pit of our stomachs that we must learn to live with.
Please take care of yourselves. Sending hugs to you x
Thinking about you Hilga
Always our babies, my Son was 30. Very sudden, no warning, no illness, maybe a heart genetic.
Lost and broken.
Take care, sending love x
Thinking about you and your family today and most of all your beautiful Caren . Sending love xx
Thank you so much.
Today was Caren’s birthday. We cried and cried. We didn’t want a celebration, it didn’t seem right somehow. Instead my husband, Carens two brothers and their families and two of my best friends lit tea lights. We placed them by photos of Caren and some scented candles and flowers of her favourite colour cerise pink. We then all stood in a circle and toasted Caren with her favourite shot of Tequila Rose.
The children from aged 2.1/2 to 10 yrs also took part, but of course they had strawberry milkshake.
I am glad we remembered Caren in this way, although it was very emotional.