I know. You just have to go through the pain and come out the other side. This first year is hard. I hope the second is better.
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Pleas help me to settle down. I don’t know how to.
My husband died over 2 years ago. I still miss him so very much. I moved house after he died to be nearer family but they all have their own families and all have busy lives. I think they feel I should be ‘over it’ by now and in company I put on a happy and smiling face so they all probably think I’m coping really well. I’m not. I hate living alone; I’m so lonely. I have no friends and can’t find any enthusiasm for joining groups etc. The world is set up for couples. When do you start to feel anything like normal again? I’m existing, not living. Is this what life is now?
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Its really hard isnt it , have you tried councilling ? I havent but alot of people on here have .they get alot of ckmfort from it .
I’m going to reply tomorrow. Too late now.
Love your entry.
It’s been 3 years since my man died. I thought, stupidly that people got over these things. No, I still miss him just as much as I did in the beginning. The positive thing is, I am beginning to live with it and see the love as part of who I am, live with the sadness of missing him, but cherishing the wonderful life we had. So it is easier in some way, not how I imagined, learning to live, do things you get pleasure from, even the small things and build on it. Take care all.
Brilliant entry.
I can’t give you an answer to your question but I would love to know the answer. I think we have to learn to live with the loss. Being single isn’t great especially when all your friends ( who are amazing) are couples.
I’m a very strong independent person and I never thought grief would affect me like it has. People on here are lovely and totally understand I hope that helps.
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Thanks for your replies and support. I used this community in the early days and weeks after my husband died and thought I didn’t need it any more but I really do. I don’t think it helps with Christmas looming again which is a time for family friends and it’s another reminder of how alone I feel. I’ll be with my daughter for Christmas but on my own for New Year’s Eve. Also I hate this time of year; cold, dark and miserable!
Many thanks again for taking the time to reply.
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