I lost my Husband in April this year. The grief comes in waves we were together for 17 years and married for what should have been 2 years in June. I miss him so much and know my life will never be the same again without him.
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I feel for you so much. My partner of 36 years died in March. Your whole life changes. Makes you realise how precious they were. You will have bad days and surprisingly some good, but that feeling of loss never seems to leave you. I guess we just have to learn to adapt and try and move on with life. Try and stay strong. Thinking of you.
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Grief due to the loss of a loved one,someone special,is absolutely indescribable but for you and your children to lose someone so young simply leaves me feeling lost for words that might help you.
Our personal circumstances may differ but the journey that we are on is exactly the same and it is a very painful journey.
The way you feel will change from hour to hour,day to day and the best way to help yourself is to deal with in that way,even minute by minute if you need to. Be sure to accept any help or support that you are offered,if you have family and friends then lean on them as much as you can.
We are all facing a different life and it isn’t one that we chose,in time it will start to feel normal but not as it was with your lovely husband,just different normal.
I send you my heartfelt thoughts and wishes to stay strong,here you are five months in doing all the things that you are doing for your children and grieving the loss of your loved one,that’s an awful lot to cope with.
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Thank you very much and thats true grief will never leave but we learn to live with the loss.
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Thank you very much for your kind words they are very comforting.
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May here 3 children he was 52 I’m 44. It does come in waves and you feel like you’re drowning. It’s hard and life looks bleak. Sending hugs
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Im so sorry for your loss, its so hard. Sending hugs to you too.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. This is my first post but I felt compelled to offer you my sympathy at this difficult time. I can’t offer any advice as I’m only just making it through the day, but we are making it through so that’s got to mean something so be as gentle with yourself as you’d be with a lost child. You need kindness and calm. Much love to you as you continue to find your way forward. Yvonne xcc
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Im so sorry for your loss too. We just have to take it a day at a time during the the time of grieveing. Sending my love and hoping things get easier as time goes by xx
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We will make it through, I can’t imagine actually recovering from the shock and pain but I read something about incorporating our loss, into a bigger whole, not getting rid of it . It was on this site I read it so maybe you’ll come across it too as you explore. If you want to get in touch anytime I’ll do what I can’t to support you, perhaps it will also give me some strength too. We are being incredibly strong against the odds at the moment. Keep going sending love xx
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@Eoz112 @Yvg @miker @Sah28 . I lost my husband suddenly and unexpectedly in April too. People say im doing really well as i do plan things and i do accept invitations to go out. I am a sociable petson but i want my Pete by my side. I try to stay positive but at times its hard. I miss him so much, but i will try to live the best life i can in his honour. My friend and i signed up to do a 13 mile walk in South Devon in aid of the Alzheimers Society . It made us go out and walk and talk. The walk was yesterday and we raised over £1,000. It was tough, it was hot but we did it. I so wanted to talk to Pete about it. So many friends commented on social media it gave me a lift. But today i am back home and feeling sad. But i understand i have to take the good with the bad and carry on. Sending love to everyone feeling this grief.
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I don’t think we will ever stop grieving, for who we lost, what we lost, what should have been
But our response to the grief will change over time.
Initially it’s raw and so deeply painful but as the months go on my attitude to the grief is changing. As i adjust to my new routines and my brain processes the changes, I have adapted.
It’s a challenge to do things that I’m am only doing because my partner died. Opportunities that have opened up because he is no longer here. It’s very strange but I’m embracing it as it happens.
I can’t stop the future from happening but I can control how I deal with what happens. Not being defined by grief is part of that control.
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Im here too if you would ever like to chati feel less alone when reading other peoples posts as strange as that sounds xx
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@Ali29. You’ve hit the nail on the head! This life is not what I wanted but I need to make the most of it. I am also up for a challenge! It’s what he would have expected from me and I’ll not let him down. J x
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Well done. That’s amazing!
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Congratulations freefaller for your great achievement and also to all of us who face our challenges every day doing whatever it is we need to do. We can’t always be positive but we are always strong.
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Eoz112. I hope that now you (and I) have reached out once we can build onl the comments of the beautiful people on here. My day improved because of everyone here and you started it. Thank you x
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I totally agree everyone has been so lovely and supportive xx
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@Yvg , thank you.i need to gind something else now. Im thinking of joining a choir. Thankfully my friend has just retired too so looking at coming with me. My husband and i were so looking forward to doing things together in retirement instead of being pulled in all directions with work and family. Im so sad he didn’t get to retire.
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Choirs are great I’ve belonged to a few and learned some fabulous prices of classical music. Did you know that when you’ve learnt it in your choir - and all Choirs that I’ve been a part of learn and perform the Messiah. Once you covered it, even if it’s only the basics so you can enjoy singing it you can book a ticket and go sing it in The Royal Albert Hall. It’s not the greatest of ways to listen to it as the space is so vast that the technicalities get lost so just well enough to enjoy it is fine. Singing is a fab way of connecting with others and I thoroughly recommend it. If you think you’ll enjoy it then you will and you’ll do great - I wish you every success with it.xx
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