I’m new here. Hello all.
I lost my mom suddenly this past January. She was in a nursing home for six months prior because she’d gone blind from macular degeneration and osteoporosis. She wanted to smoke but we told her she couldn’t and long story short, she ended up in ER due to a cracked vertebrae and then she decided to go to a nursing home so she could smoke. I took care of her in my house for 2 1/2 years. She had high blood pressure but seemed to be doing fine.
I’m an only child, my dad predeceased my mom by three years. My little Chihuahua died two weeks prior to my mom’s death.
I have a history of depression and I just feel so lost now. My mom was my best friend. We’ve gone through a lot and very similar growing up stories. I have a husband and two daughters. One daughter is estranged and she keeps her daughter away from us as well.
My husband had to have his thyroid removed because of a cancerous mass a few months ago. He’s also diabetic.
I just feel like my whole world has been crumbling away slowly since the new year. I try to do crafts and read but find myself staring at a wall.
Anyway, that’s my story.
Hello @Jan2024,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your mom and your little chihuahua. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might also want at this article: Losing a parent
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
Thank you!
Hi @Jan2024,
So sorry for your losses 
Well done for reaching out and welcome to the community.
It’s only been 7 months since your dear Mum passed away so it’s totally understandable you feel lost plus you lost your other best friend!
Have you thought about getting another dog or do you feel it’s too soon still?
One scheme that has helped me through my recent grief related MH issues is ‘BorrowMyDoggy’. I now have a new best friend who I exercise for a new friend who is busy with work & family plus it means I get out in the fresh air and get some exercise.
Have you spoken with your GP?
It’s one of the best things I did!
Also sign up for some Counselling, you may feel it’s too soon but there is a waiting list and when your turn comes along you can always defer if you don’t feel quite ready.
There is lots of useful information in the links Alex posted and this forum is here for you and understands.
One thing the last year has taught me is that it’s good to talk.
Take care💙
Remember the Samaritans 
116123 or msg Shout by txt ‘Shout’ to 85258 services are there 24/7 and their volunteers are wonderful, if you find yourself in Crisis
Yes, we bought another chihuahua puppy and I’m having a very hard time potty training her.
I have been diagnosed with depression and was put on meds for it but it doesn’t seem to be working well.