I lost my mum two month’s ago. My mum passed away quite suddenly, I am finding each day so, so difficult. I do have family and friends but most of the time I feel so alone. I have just gone back to work on a phased return but finding this hard too.
2 Likes
Hello @Granzi ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling so alone. I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
My mum went sooner than expected, watched her take her last breath, struggle so much dealing with this.
I’m glad your work let you go back phased return. Mine said I could but it never happened.
Feel I had to get up and get on too quick. Plus have 10yr old daughter so I had to carry on.
Been through a bad week, been hell to be honest.
Be nice so share the loss/grief with someone who understands.
Hope you are ok.
2 Likes
So sorry to hear of the loss of your mum. I am finding it hard to express how I feel after losing my mum. I am finding it helpful being part of this online community.
Glad you are finding this community helpful, I only just joined.
Happy to talk and share emotions/troubles and grief if you need it
1 Like
@Granzi @Miffy1
First of all, I’m so sorry for your loss of your mum, I lost my mum 18 months ago at the end of this month.
I created a post on this platform shortly after mum passed and it has truly been a lifeline. Knowing that everyone who reaches out onto this platform is going through the same hell, and can genuinely offer some kind of support and comfort.
We’re all here for each other and sending you both love and strength xx
My post i created on here is titled loss of my my mum, my whole world. You’re welcome to join this group if ever you feel you want xx 
1 Like
Sorry for your loss. I lost my mum suddenly almost a month ago. Funeral was on Sunday. Still doesn’t feel real. I find the evenings and mornings the hardest. I have been signed off for work for 2 months as the death itself was quite traumatic. @Granzi Do you mind if I ask you what you did while off work ? Not really sure what to do during this time to get better. I have started therapy already. Wishing everyone strength to get through this incredibly difficult time.
2 Likes
Thank you for your kind words.
1 Like
Hello, when I was not at work, I tried to keep busy, after a few weeks I went back to the Pilates class that I attend, I started having counselling again as I was already having counselling as I have had a lot going on over the past 2 or 3 years. I am due to start swimming again but haven’t managed this just yet. I have also had to spent a lot of time my mum’s flat which has been one of the hardest parts. Try if you can to do some activities that you like doing and keep some structure to your day. Please don’t put pressure on yourself and take time to grieve.
2 Likes
How do you join the group?
@Miffy1 @Seaneen
I hope you’re both coping as well as can be expected? How have you both been getting through? All welcome to join the other group chat we have, it’s a real support group that hopefully brings some benefit in how we navigate our way through the life changing loss we have all recently had. I still take one day at a time, 18 months on and I’m still nowhere near to being ok, I’m not sure I’ll ever be ok again.
Sending strength to you all xx