My lovely mum passed away one year ago today, two months later I found this group and started using this group for support. This group has been so helpful to me during this year. Thank you to you all for the support. Missing my mum more than ever xxx
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Hi @Granzi I’m so sorry it must be a hard day. Thinking of you and sending love 
I haven’t reached that anniversary yet, just over 9 months since I lost my mum. We’ve just had her birthday though and that was horrible. X
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Thank you @DollyP5 for your kind words. It was a hard day and with Christmas approaching too it’s a really difficult time.
I hope you are doing ok xxx
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I feel your pain, everyone says it gets easier, I guess it does a little, but nearly 2 years on I’m feeling the pain/grief so much more and struggle to cope some weeks. Probably shouldn’t of stopped talking on here as it helped so much hearing other stories, so I’m back to give help and understanding to others and to here from others to help heal my pain
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Thank you for your response 
It’s such a tough ride this grief journey isn’t it.
I’ve felt so low the last two weeks & feel floored by emotion at the moment.
Much love & thoughts
Will
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I’m 19months into losing my Mum. Certain aspects of my grief have got easier - I don’t cry every single day, I don’t curl up in the shower and sob, I don’t read her messages everyday, I don’t feel the need to say ‘I miss my Mum’ everyday - even though I do ..
But I feel I hurt more. When the waves do come crashing in it feels more painful than at the beginning - maybe because I’ll go days without crying that it all builds up. Maybe because I’m further away from the last time I saw her. When I was “happier?” Maybe because I know I’m moving forward and the more I do that, the more Mum is missing out on. Maybe because I’m scared that the next half of my life Mum won’t be here ..
Maybe because it just feels like it hasn’t stopped raining for weeks! and there’s been nothing but dark grey clouds ..
I found moving into this year really hard .. last year in 2025 I could say ‘this time last year we did this with Mum’ but this year I can’t because she wasn’t here last year.
I still find some days really difficult and I feel as if I’m trying to train my mind to think differently about my sadness when it really creeps in and that is just as hard and as mentally exhausting as crying every day!
It is such a difficult journey, I don’t think it will ever end. I know I’m always going to miss my Mum but I’m hoping I won’t always feel as sad ..
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Hi All,
Feeling much the same as others. Since Christmas the feeling of this time last year have been strong. My mum became obviously unwell just after Christmas 24 and spent a long time in hospital with a rollercoaster of she’s getting better but then i remember thinking this doesn’t feel like it does usually when she gets better. We lost her the beginning of March so anniversary is approaching. Like others I’m doing ok but miss my mum and that feeling of genuinely being ok.
Lots of love to all on this horrible journey. X
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Hello @Elle2123 - it’s been 15 months since my mum passed away and I feel much the same as you have been feeling.
We have to keep going but the void that has been left since my mum passed away is huge and cannot be filled.
Thinking of you x
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Thinking of you @DollyP5 - I hope you are doing as ok as you can be.
Sending you love and good wishes xxx
Thank you @Granzi it was the anniversary of losing mum yesterday so a tough day but we got through. I’ve woken up feeling a bit unwell which is unlike me so maybe a physical reaction, who knows?! I hope you’re doing ok too and take care xx
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Hello @DollyP5 - I hope you will soon feel better. Take care too xxx
Thinking of you early days was worst day of my life. I joined a bereavement club which has made it easier to cope. Everyday is difficult so take each day at a time. Obviously will never go but try and keep yourself busy but don’t beat yourself if some days are too much. I hope you have lots of friends and family to help you
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Thank you Granzi for starting this chat. I am 5 weeks in from losing my dear mum. My best friend, my comfort, my everything. I am surrounded by people, my husband, boys and my dad plus other family and friends, but I feel completely alone. I feel so lost and cut adrift and numb, like a need a good cry but my body won’t let me at the minute. She was the person I went to when I was sad or things went wrong and not being able to talk to her, kills me.. we seen each other every day and spoke 2 or 3 times a day. Just about silly things really. Some of you are further along than me, does the feeling of being lost get a little easier and the absolute ache in your heart?
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I am 8 weeks in and feeling very similar to you, just knowing others are going through it helps xx
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Hello @MD777 and @Ems184 - am thinking of you both.
I still think of my mum every day, I have felt very lonely since losing my mum even though I have family and friends.
Some days will be harder than others for you both but somehow you will find the strength from within. This online community has been helpful as people understand what others are feeling.
Take care both of you xxx
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Dear MD777
I lost my Mum a year ago.
Like you I have family & friend..But the lose I feel is so deep.I find it hard that I’m never going to see her again.St the moment I feel the lose even more & it’s been a year….You never get over it.Especially if you love the person deeply.The grief journey seems to be so hard when you loved them so do much.
I’m sorry not to tell you it gets better, it doesn’t but you learn to live with it , sort of…Writting how you feel & reaching out on here dose hell a little..Just knowing people feel the same helps a little.
I’m sending love & thoughts & im here to chat on here any time..
W.
This platform is such a great help, I joined for support from people who can understand the pain and sadness you feel, plus an outlet to talk about emotions you are feeling with no judgement.
Sadly I stopped for a while and I plummeted into despair.
Talking to you and others makes such a difference.
Thank you for lovely response and sorry for the delay in responding!!
talking (well messaging) definitely helps
Thank you for your kindness and support x
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Every day is a challenge so don’t be hard on yourself. I’ve had a number of other difficulties which im trying to get through mainly losing my job. Time i know I will get something. I get annoyed with myself that I don’t achieve everything I want to each day but then I think im probably being too hard on myself. Going to meet people from bereavement club today i meet them every Tuesday and Saturday. Try and meet friends on a regular basis this will help you
I started this thread when my mum passed away. It’s been just over a year since my Mum passed away and I am still find it so hard without her.
And now, 2 days ago my Dad passed away, he had been ill for the past few years with dementia, yet his passing was sudden.
My Mum and Dad had been divorced for many years.
I feel so lost and I am unable to sleep. I can’t settle.
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