I am 23 and my mum died late January from cancer. She was my best friend and my favourite person. I had just moved out the year before (Aug, 2024) for my first job, and she was so proud of me. My dad has been amazing, and everyone has been lovely, but I feel a massive hole. I used to always leave work and call her to talk about my day - it would help with my homesickness and was always a highlight of my day. Walking back now is so hard. I miss her like crazy.
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I’m so, so sorry for your loss. Your mum sounds like an incredible woman, how wonderful it must have been for her, too, loved to call her daily. What a beautiful relationship.
Sorry I have no wisdom or tools for fixing how you are feeling. Just make sure you keep on talking, to your dad, to friends, on forums, in a journal, wherever and whenever you need to. Grief has no rules. It’s cruel that your mum is no longer here, but your memories will never leave you. Take care x
I am so sorry for your loss, our lives will never be the same again. I lost my beautiful mum last February, hoping you can lean on the people you have. My dad has moved on with my mums best friend, and my mum requested by laughing saying for him not to get with her. She now lies in my mum’s bed and has moved in, they’ve distracted us grieving completely. I have lost a lot of faith in people
Hi ML13, I am so sorry for your loss. I, too, lost my mum at the end of February from Cancer after a horrible 2 year battle, and I cared for her till the very end. I am 28, and I am really struggling with the fact she is gone. My mum was also my best friend, and i would speak to her or text her every single day. The drive back from work was our usual daily catch ups - and not being able to do that now is heartbreaking. I try and fill it with listening to an audiobook or some happy songs.
I completely understand what you mean about the ‘hole’. I keep feeling something is missing and not quite right - like a weird ache that i can’t relieve. I try to fill it with live for my dad and partner , but it’s not the same. I feel such an intense longing or need to have a mum hug - or hear her voice. I feel your pain and im sending you as much love as I can x
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