I thought I was coping with loosing my mum to cancer in May it’s now September and I’m not coping. I cry almost every night when I’m alone. I’ve never felt so lonely even tho I have people around me.
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I recently had to admit to myself that I want y doing well/as well as I was presenting to others following my dad’s death (also a May death). Sending you support. What are you doing to take care of yourself, even if it’s a small thing?
I’m so sorry for your loss. I think losing your man is one of the hardest things xx
I lost my mam in June and still am not coping at all. We were very close and it’s hit me very hard. I went to the doctor yesterday because I’m not sleeping well, and crying a lot. I’m not driving at the moment and had a panic attack at the shops last week. Some days I am a little better than others, but I find Friday and Saturday are my worst days. My mam passed on a Saturday night and I play it over and over in my head all day until the time she passed. She was put on palliative on the Thursday afternoon and I moved into the hospital with her on the Friday until she passed just after 11pm on Saturday.
I have spoken to my doctor (he was also my mam’s doctor so knew the situation well) and went back again yesterday. I had been mam’s carer for a very long time with no outside help, and had been struggling for some time anyway. A bit of carer burn out I think, so I was at a very low point when she passed anyway. He has given me medication to help with sleep and mood to help settle me before we start grief counselling. I haven’t taken the meds yet, because to be honest, I’m not a huge fan of them so I’m thinking it through. That said, I think we need to do what we have to to be able to somehow get through this. We have to get on with life in some way at some time and navigating that is different for everyone. Maybe you can have a chat with your doctor to see if there are options available to help you? I lost a part of myself when I lost my mam, and I think that is the hard part. Figuring out how to move on when I feel I am a different person.
I have a good friend who is helping me keep busy. For example she and her husband invite me to dinner etc
Sundays are my hardest. Because it was a day I spent with my mum. Belfre she become really sick we went to gardens etc, had meals out. Then on a Sunday night it went. I still expect her to phone me telling me what she wanted to eat or just talk while I was at work.
what’s even worse is there’s no videos of her as she hated them. So I’ll never hear her voice again. There’s only few pictures for the same reason.
Miss her so much
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