It is 12 months last month since my mum passed away. I have been struggling the last few weeks more than I have been. My younger sister is going to help me do a self referral at weekend for more counselling sessions. I am finding life really hard and think I need talking therapy. I don’t know how I am going to get through this 
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I feel the same I lost my mum in 2024 29th June I miss her dreadfully
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I lost my mum in 2013 I miss her too xx
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Hello @Katie54,
I’m so sorry to hear that it was the first anniversary of your mum’s death last month, and that you’re missing her so much. It sounds like you’re having a really tough time at the moment, so it’s good that your sister is going to help you do a self-referral for more counselling sessions.
Whether it has been one, five or ten years since the person you’re grieving for died, coping with a death anniversary can bring about new feelings each year. You might find our support page on coping with anniversaries helpful to read.
As well as the counselling, if you need any extra support, we’re here to help. As well as the community, we also have bereavement support information and our Grief Guide self help platform. You can find out more about our bereavement services at sueryder.org/support
I’m also sorry @Cazra and @Christyg1 that you are both feeling the same after the loss of your mums. I hope you’ll both find lots of support and understanding here.
Take care and keep reaching out 
Harriet
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I lost my mam in June. We were very close and it’s hit me like a ton of bricks. I hate going out and when I have to do shopping it completely depletes me. I feel like I’m walking around in a haze and when I come home I end up sleeping because I’m so tired. I still cry every day and miss her so much it’s beyond any pain I think I’ve ever felt before. I have no answers for you, but wanted to send a hug and let you know you aren’t alone xx
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Thanks for that it means a lot
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I send a hug 
back to you
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Hi everyone,
I’ve just joined, my mum passed away at the end of August and I too am struggling with the loss. She had advanced dementia and I’d moved back home 5 years ago to help my dad care for her, as well as working full time, it was a tiring few years but I’m so grateful to have had all that time back home to spend with her. Her passing wasn’t entirely unexpected but did still happen suddenly in the end and I don’t think I had realised just how quickly she could go or that she was so close to the end.
I’m finding myself overwhelmed with lots of different emotions, the main one being of course that I miss her so so much, she was my world and I loved her with all my heart, we had a very very special bond.
Sending positive thoughts to you all.
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Thank you for your message. I have done a self referral for talking therapy. I received an email this morning. I have my first session on 26th October.
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Thank you for your message. I’m sorry to hear about your mum. You are going through the same as I did. It is very hard. Have you done any bereavement counselling. I had 11 sessions. I still struggle so my sister recommended talking therapy. I did a self referral and I received an email this morning. I have been in touch and I have my first talking therapy on 26/10/26. I am here if you ever need to chat.
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Thank you for the information on extra support. It really means a lot to get your support.
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Hi @Katie54 , I’m so sorry to read about your loss. It’s good that something has come for your self-referral. I put one in for myself on Friday, so hoping to maybe hear something back perhaps.
My mum passed away in April (Easter Sunday). I feel like I’m drowning sometimes.
No, I haven’t done counselling. I’m really not the counselling type of person, and I prefer to work things out my own way and in my own time. Nothing will bring my mam back so it’s up to me to try to find a way to move forward.
I was talking to my partner only yesterday because he’d been to visit some aunties/uncles/cousins (I’m not doing social stuff right now so he went alone), and he was telling me all the stories and things they shared from when they were children. They all had great laughs and shared lots of memories. It hit me then that I would never be able to do that again. I’m an only child and I’ve now lost both of my parents so I have nobody from my early childhood years to tell me what I was like or things I did. Mam and I used to talk all the time and she would share stories. It makes me sad that I have also lost that. There is just so much more about grieving and loss than the person dying. That’s why I believe it takes a part of you you never get back and no amount of counselling will return that unfortunately.