Sorry, I don’t know how to do it. x
Im so sorry for your loss,its so hard x
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Thank you x
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Peaches Dixon
That is brilliant and very good advice. I lost my wife Jan.24 and still struggling with the greif,it’s horrendous.I will try to take your advice.
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Judy, I am surviving. I ate 2 things today and will eat more. Bought a small tray of “finger sandwiches” and one of those is just right. Any more and I want to puke. Small bites. All day. Nibbles. Highly recommended.
I spent nearly 3 weeks after my husband’s funeral clearing out his office/music room/man cave - an hour at a time. It was horrendous. My sweet man was a “keeper” of documents and useless things.
BUT, I found all paperwork I need, organized it and filed it so I can put my hands on it when needed. Shredded roughly 20 boxes stuffed with paper so far - most of it by a big truck shredding machine.
I am paying the bills. The pets are alive. My pension check arrived. The exterior of my house is being repaired and repainted which is something we decided to do before my husband died. The noise and the people roaming around the outside of the house makes me crazier than I already am.
Lost 7 lbs since my husband died. I take my dog for a 90 minute walk 3 times a week, pending rain. I call my friends. They call me. I drink coffee. I make myself take a shower every 3 or 4 days. Sometimes, I concede to a long, hot soak in the bathtub, but feel guilty for not doing something productive.
My brain never shuts off. A million things are swirling in there at any moment, so I have to write down the important thoughts - like “oh, yes. I need to put air in that tire”. “garbage goes to the curb tonight”, “pet food”, “post office”. Otherwise, it slips my mind. I can’t leave the bills for later, so I pay when I get them or I’ll be cold in the dark.
How are you making it?
Tomorrow is another day. May it be better than today.
Much love.
My friends are all living their happy lives with all sorts of celebrations and activities, it is sweet to hear about it all. None of them have any idea what I am going through, I just tell them I am okay.
And, I am. Hour by hour, 5 things a day. List.
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So sorry for your loss. I lost my partner at the end of May and am still finding it hard to live without him. I talk to him a lot and have pictures of him in every room. I believe he is still with me in spirit but I miss his physical presence and his voice. It is a hard journey and we must comfort each other in our shared situation. Getting out always helps but the loneliness always hits on returning home.
I feel deeply for you and hope you find comfort in texting people on this site. Love and hugs xxx