let me start by saying my spelling is very bad my wife tried for 47 years to help but this is as good as it gets . my wife died nearly 6 weeks ago she went in my arms now l want to be with her l don’t know how to move on l was her full time carer for 20 years all i do is sit and talk to her and cry lots and lots of crying my 2 kids keep a eye on me but its not the same l think about joining her every day and i am scared l will do it HOW DO YOU GET OVER THIS PAIN
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Dear @BOBBY2
Welcome to the Community. I am sorry for your loss and as to how you are feeling.
I am concerned that you have mentioned you would like to join your wife. You are very much in the early stages of grief and need to take one day at a time. Have you considered talking to your GP for support and to see if there are local bereavement groups in your area. It would be good for you to talk to someone.
I would like to guide you to the Samaritans who are available 24/7 on 116123 for free for someone to talk to straight away. Please ring them. They are there to listen and to support you.
You are not alone and there is loads of support here with the Community members. I would also like to guide you to our recently launched Grief Self-Help Service which has useful information on ways to cope with bereavement and grief. All you need to do is create an account. This will also be of help and support to you.
We are here for you and please continue to reach out any time. You are not alone.
Take care.
Pepsi
Good morning @BOBBY2
I just wanted to see how you have been since your post yesterday and how you have been over night before I go to work. My colleagues @SusieM and @Seaneen are on shift today so they will pick up this thread.
If you need anything please reach out here. We are all here for you or email online.community@suerydercare.org. Please let us know how you are. You are not alone. We are all here for you.
Take care.
Pepsi
thank you for your support trying to cheer up finding hard started smoking again after 20 years i just dont know how to move on
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Hello Bobby, Sorry you are having such a hard time. Its five and a half years since my lovely wife went, but I still find it hard, and shed tears every day. like you I wonder why I’m not with her, and wish I was. but Jan always said life was precious, and we must make the best of it. It is very hard after 55 years together. I don’t know if I ever will get over this pain, but for my Jan I will go on. We all struggle on. It will be hard, the memories will bring more tears and some joy. I look to the day when I join her, with hope.
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Hi Bobby, just asking how you are today and honestly I really want to know. My colleague and friend Pepsi is also want to know. We are always here for you. Sxxx
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lam ok at the moment trying to keep busy
Just nice to know. Keep busy it does help. Look after yourself. Sxx
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