I lost my dad 7 years ago and I found it very difficult and my mom helped me and supported me last year the 25th October I lost my mom she had a fall and she was on the floor all night and it caused lots of problems 8 days later she passed away I wasn’t there when she passed and I didn’t see her at the chapel of rest either since my mom died I’ve lost all my get up and go she always called me a beautiful butterfly with a hippy soul but I feel like I’ve lost myself I’ve got a partner who supports me and I’ve got my children there in there teens and adults years and they have been great I feel like I’m failing because I can’t focus much on things it’s like my minds full of fog and I’m
Lost I miss my both parents and I need them so much I just want to be myself now and find my self again but I don’t know how or what to do
Hi Lisee, i have come here for a similar post but you took the words from my mind and wrote them. Firstly your not alone feeling like this. I lost my dad 10 years ago have just got through the grief of losing him suddenly. Then lost my mum in august suddenly both to cancer. I was unaware of mum and was living with her until she was taken to hospital. I have one little one she is 2.5yo. I understand the feeling of you want your mum even when your a mum yourself. I always ran my thoughts on things past my mum and asked for advice on silly things, like what top looked better on me. The sense of loss is of that being a big part of your self identity has been taken. When one parent died you had the other for support but when the other died you feel lost. Just know your not alone in feeling like this.
Thank you for replying to me it’s so hard I was the same always turn to my mom even on days I felt rough she would say I looked absolutely beautiful always full of happiness mom was …it’s so hard isn’t it I felt so alone even surrounded by so many people…I’m hoping on this forum I can help myself and others
Yes its tough the amount of times i go to call her then remember i cant. Makes it harder at this time of year. Christmas wasnt too bad. We didnt really do much at christmas. But new year its hitting me hard. To think its a new year im not seeing in with her. Its just me and my 2.5year old this year makes it harder as we are still in mums house. I have my brother, gran and 1 close friend. Im not close to my brother. And my friend still has her parents so i feel like she doesnt fully understand. Im in my early 30s so most of my age group have still got mum and dad. I feel so lonely especially in the evenings. Im hoping the same to find people who understand what its like not having mum and dad here. Also to help others not feeling like i am at the moment lost, scared and felling alone. Its lovely to hear you have a nice memory of your mum, giving you the best words of wisdom even when your feeling low your always beautiful. Your mum sounds like she is an amazing woman.
I always say unless people go tho it they don’t know what it’s like it’s hard very hard and you have a young child and these are the times you need your parents …I’m 44 I’ve got 7 children my oldest is 28 n my youngest is 14 they help me lots and my my partner does too but I still feel lonely n missing mom n dad but mom as hit me so hard nothing seems the same I clung to her tho everything and new year she would be with me seeing it in bless her ….and I’ve got a sister but we don’t speak we am not close and mom keeped us talking now she’s not ere we don’t speak or even wave as we pass by in the street …any time you feel like you need to talk you can always message me and thank you for the kind words your mom sounds such a beautiful soul too