Its just over 2 years since i lost my wife i found it difficult to go food shopping on my own i now have it delivered by Tesco and Iceland something my wife wouldn’t of dreamed of but it eases the upset for me i still can’t visit shops that we went to together
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It’s the opposite for me as I find the evenings harder, I work full time so my days are busy, it’s when I come home to the silence and then watching TV in the evenings alone, I am slowly getting used to it as time goes on but it still hits me getting into bed at night and the empty space next to me, especially now winter is here and my cold feet are a constant reminder as he always moaned when I put my feet in his back to keep them warm, it’s the little things that stab you in the heart
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I agree with you about the bed i couldn’t sleep in our double bed so my son got rid and bought me a single bed but still strange in there on my own
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We had a King Size bed and I only recently changed the mattress for a new one but still kept the bed. Even doing that was so hard and I am still in a big space on my own but it now feels a bit more like my bed than ‘ours’. In the first few weeks after he passed I slept on the sofa, couldn’t face our bedroom. For me personally, time is a healer, it does all get more bearable
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I agree i still find difficult after 2 years i still think she should be beside me i have tears every morning
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It’s 2 yrs in Feb for me. 2nd year has been a lot harder than the first for me personally but slowly starting to live again. I love travel and have lots of holidays planned, some solo, scary but can’t rely on others so have to get on with it
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Good for i know its difficult enjoy your trips alone or with others I’m hoping to do this soon still a bit nervous we were together 46 years x
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The service was very special and I’m glad i was able to attend albeit I had tears rolling down my face as we were mentioned in prayers and the reading of names from the book of remembrance. I was so moved by the welcome I received and was even allowed to take communion despite being a very lapsed Catholic. I was also able to chat with some of the men who served with Rick and have a coffee afterwards. Small steps but a huge feeling of achievement and comfort this evening x
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I totally agree. It is 14 months since my partner died suddenly from a massive stroke. Mornings are horrendous and I do not feel better until lunch either. I also have no family and friends have drifted away. I get very anxious about how I am going to cope living on my own without the support from a family. I thought I would feel better in the second year but, if anything, it is worse.
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I lost my husband 2 years ago and I am exactly the same… terrible anxiety. I also moved house 12 months after he died to live slightly nearer to my 2 sons as I was so distraught and no friends just dog walking acquaintances but moving has worsened the anxiety as it is very lonely and quiet and the family understandably have their own busy lives. And to make everything worse my only sister died 2 weeks ago and as I spoke to her via phone for over an hour each day I just feel utterly bereft once again. She lived 70 miles away from me but we were so close as sisters. So don’t know how to get through this now except I have my lovely old dog who although she is now 16 is my lifeline. Why is grief such a life sentence.
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So sorry you feel all this anxiety. I do too, ever since my husband became ill years ago. The anxiety is worse now im on my own. Lost Tony 14 months ago. Spoken to Doctor and am being referred to a mental health support group, but all i need is regular company to help me cope with it all. My thoughts are with you. Take care xx
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I lost my gorgeous beautiful late wife sue to cancer on the 1st February last year Definitely feel worse than ever.family and friends are trying to help support me.but i feel so lost and alone without sue
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My dad passed away 16 months ago. I have my daughter who is a great comfort, & bereavment group helped, but like yourself I miss both my parents terribly, & non more so than during the day, & I cry everyday, & feel better by the evening.
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