Losing my wife has left a profound emptiness in my life, a void that is most palpable in the quiet hours of the morning. Each dawn brings a painful reminder of her absence, the once comforting routine now a source of sorrow. The mornings we spent together, sipping coffee and sharing plans for the day, are memories that cut deep. Her laughter, her touch, the simple joy of her presence—these are the moments I miss the most. Every sunrise is a stark reminder that she’s no longer here to share it with me. The bed feels colder, the house quieter, and the world lonelier. The mornings, once filled with love and companionship, have become a daily hurdle, a time when the weight of her absence presses hardest on my heart. Though the pain is constant, I hold onto these memories, cherishing the love we shared.
Good Morning Mattie i know and feel all of what you are saying. The empty chair the endless evenings with no one to chat or even sit quiet with. How long was you married for? Mine will be 16 yrs on the 2nd of August. I hope we all find solace one day but at the moment i dont see that ever happening. Hugs jo xxx
Mornings are the worst for me,when I wake up reality kicks in and my stomach is all churned up
Mornings are the worst for me. My husband only passed away four weeks ago but that morning routine has gone. Sharing plans over breakfast, coffee in the garden on nice days, a drink later on in the summerhouse before our evening meal - all gone 
I can’t bring myself to do any of these things because he’s not here to share them with. Does it ever get better - I don’t know - doesn’t feel like it at the moment.
Hi @Harriet4Bill
I won’t say it gets any better.
You start to get used to it and do things in a new way.
I still can’t eat at our usual time nor read the newspaper or sit in my dining chair where I would be opposite him. I sit in his chair, so it is different.
It’s 21 weeks for me and although the pain is still there and I still cry a lot, everday. I do think I’m coping.
I’m never going to stop missing him and I think about him constantly.
But I am starting to realise that I have to carry on. It’s what he wanted and although it is very very hard I am trying.
Love and hugs
Liz x x
2 months and 5 days for me, since I lost my husband.
So very hard and sad, but he told me that I would be ok, so I am trying my best.
Weekends are the worst for me, I work full time so things are not too different weekdays, except for eating alone I hate that.
Weekends, I miss our routine, popping to the shops, Saturday tea time going to the pub for a quick drink before tea.
So isolated and lonely now.
But we will get there and find a new normal xxx
Hi @Jojo12
I do know exactly how you feel.
I am the same
We were retired so we spent all our time together. We went out separately at times of course, but mostly we were together.
I find it so hard doing things on my own, gardening, cooking, eating, walking, going to the pub, everything.
Like you I told him I’d be ok, he was so worried about me.
Sometimes I feel I lied because I’m not ok.
But I know I’ve got to try.
And we will do it, for them, for us
X x
Hi Liro
Weekends are the worst for me, but yes we will do it for them xxx
As we were retired weekends weren’t much different so every day is hard.
Friday is my bad day. The day I lost him, 22 weeks today.
But we will do it, and we will help each other to do it
X x
Yes, we will. It’s not like we have a choice, at least a choice that is acceptable. We just have to roll with the punches until it gets better.
Onwards and upwards!
Sunday is my bad day it will be 9 weeks . It seems to be getting a little better. I still dont cook but i have started to do small things. Like today i had my 3 yrs old grandaughter Daisy, when shes around things seem better. I hate it when she goes home because that’s when the tears and lonilness start again. Hugs Jo xx
Hi Jo.
You are doing really well.
I remember when you first posted on here.
I was really worried about you.
But you are coping.
That is such an achievement. Well done
Love and hugs
Liz x x
Hiya Liz i do hope so, its still really hard but i am hoping that as each days passes it will get better. I still xry alot hold his picture and ask why all the time. I talk to him all the time ask him to give me a sign that he is still with me. I am still waiting and hoping. Hugs Jo xxx
Oh Jo.
Thats perfectly normal
.
I still cry a lot, after 25 weeks.
I’ve been really missing him tonight and then I listened to the song that @broken222 downloaded for me, and I cried even more.
I knew it would make me cry, but I still listened.
Sometimes I think we just torture ourselves.
I’m so glad that you are starting to cope
Sending you a big hug
Liz x x
Hiya Liz bless you the tears fallbfast and hard i dont need anything to encourage them, but ascI havecread so many times on herecthey are a expression f outr love
I know i fo things go round and round in my head . No wonder i struggle to sleep.
Hopefully we will all even find peace and some sort of happiness again.
Hugs Jo xxx
Hi, you should try to start meditating. I am doing it 2-3 times a day 15-30 minutes and it made me control my emotions and sadness very well. Try Dr.Joe Dispenza guided meditation where you will focus on the future and how beautiful it will be
Ty Mr mattie I will have a look at that anything that helps is a good thing. I read about grief and we all experience it differently but so alike in many ways. So i will take anything that helps on this horrendous journey. Hugs Jo xxx