I’m now on the run in to the 2nd year anniversary - it’s now 2yr since we went on holiday, had to come back prematurely from where he went into hospital and never came home after deteriorating over a 5-6 week period.
I’m finding people expecting me to be more 'over it’s by now. I get fewer invites to visit family and friends and no one genuinely asks how I am.
Mornings are the worst, I sleep fitfully and have some strange dreams that end up leaving me feeling disturbed or listless and takes such an effort to get out of that place each time.
How do others relate to this, and any ideas how to get rid of these morning blues? I’ve tried planning to get up and do something, but mostly it’s just me going and very often I back out in the morning as it won’t let anyone down.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your partner. Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.
I hope I’m writing in the correct place to reply to you Wisteria.
My husband Ray recovered from a February quintuple heart bypass op last year, we returned to work and normality only to be diagnosed with inoperable and advanced stomach cancer December.
It has been 15 weeks since my own very special human died.
How do I get up and out? Well, I plan a nice cafe, I buy a newspaper/magazine and I sit with a coffee in a corner. I have achieved something x
Yes I really struggle in the mornings. I used to be up, showered and at work for 8 -
Now I need a good couple of hours before I can face taking the dog out for a morning walk.
But I do it every day as I have to and I’m sure it does help.
Perhaps getting a routine in the morning would help - could you plan something you enjoy as that may help with the motivation ?
I’m only 5 months in and some folks seem to think I should be over it - and many people keep their distance. Apparently they don’t know what to say as it was all
So sudden and unexpected !!
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