Hello, I have not been on here for a while I have been trying to cope on my own. I haven’t and now I have another Mother’s Day to deal with. This will be the third without my Mum and it is as painful as the first. I have been avoiding shops and supermarkets because it makes me feel so much loss and sadness. I still cry so much for both my parents I have never felt so alone in all my life take care everyone Kate xxx
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Hi @kate88 sorry for your struggle with grief. All the key dates are very poignant aren’t they? I’m facing my second Mother’s Day without my lovely Mum. I have bought a card and placed it alongside special framed photos of my Mum that I have on display. I’ll buy more flowers for her tribute pot in my garden and put some in a vase as well. Although I miss her hugely I want to honour the love between us for all the years she was here. So in a way I am still going to celebrate, remembering how blessed I was to have had her as my Mum. I hope you find a way to manage how you feel. Best wishes xx
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Hi @kate88 and @Rosiepink sorry you’re both missing your mums. This mother’s day will be my first without my mum, and it’s a couple days after her birthday, so it’s a double whammy. I plan to still buy her a present and celebrate her. She has a tree planted so I will visit that. I still talk to her every day and miss her every day, so mother’s day won’t be any different. But I do struggle with seeing others happy with their mums, when I no longer have mine 
I’m jealous and I feel like it’s so unfair. How do you get through that? Do you just try to remember the lovely times with your mum and all you shared? xx
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Hello again @Woo4 like you say, we miss our Mums every day that goes by, so these key dates just reinforce the absence and make us aware of others who still have their Mums in their lives. When it comes to others I hope they don’t take their Mums for granted, although no one truly appreciates how painful it is to lose their Mum until it happens to them. I try to focus on my memories and remind myself how fortunate I was. Sending you love and strength to manage the double whammy of birthday anniversary and Mother’s Day. Best wishes xx
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It will be my first mother’s day without mum. Got emotional last time I went to Asda, took a wrong turn and walked past all the mother’s day gifts. Already had to cope with her birthday, that was the day after her funeral. Sending hugs to everyone xx
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Ah @Victoria22 the supermarket visits are the most awful triggers aren’t they? I’ve had several occasions , since losing my Mum in January 23, when I’ve seen something and then the tears flow! The worst for me was at Christmas and the anniversary of her birthday. I know it’s all part of the grief process though, so I just let it happen. Sending best wishes to you xx
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I was really tearful on the bus last Wednesday when I went to pick up mum’s ashes. xx
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Hi @kate88 I’ve just gone through the second anniversary of my mum’s death and like you am facing my third mother’s day without my mum. I feel an emptiness without my parents so I can relate to what you’re saying. Take care.
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Absolutely dreading it - it will be my first Mothers Day without mum. I want to get her a card but i really dont think i could bear browsing through them as it will bring back so many memories of trying to find the perfect card each year. 
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My first too. I used to make mother’s day cards for my mum which she liked. This year I think I’ll just buy a big bunch of flowers to put next to her ashes. Big hug xx
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Hi. I totally get what you mean. This will be my third year also without my mum. I find each year a bounce from one reminder to the next.
It will start with mothers day, the anniversary of passing, then her birthday. I will struggle with them all. And everything is just a reminder shes not there. Ive had to learn to live with just being ok or low these days. Hope mothera day goes ok for you x
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