I never thought I’d be writing something like this, but I recently went through the loss of my wife, and it still feels unreal most days.
Some days I want silence, some days I need stories that understand the weight without sugar-coating it.
I found a few “grief movie lists”, but most of them barely touch the depth of losing a partner, a best friend, your person.I don’t want to spend time on movies that use the tag but miss the heart of it.
Here are the ones I’ve already watched:
Ghost
P.S. I Love You
What Dreams May Come
Dear John
A Walk to Remember
Some made me cry for hours, some broke me quietly, but all felt closer to truth than most. I also found a couple of tag-based movie list sites, not sure if they’re worth it though:
What movies helped you feel the real wife/partner bond through grief?
Anything that actually shows love, loss, the after-shock, the memories, the pain that sits next to gratitude… Drop your recs in the comments. Let’s make a list that actually gets it
M was only film I found so cannot say I searched any out. I watched it several times.
I was interested to hear about the films other films and felt. Inspired to see for myself.
I have watched films since I was widowed that were not on this theme but rather as a distraction. I like to be engrossed. I recall the film that Robert Redford (who died recently) made with Jane Fonda (can’t remember the title) which I enjoyed. She is widowed on her own and so is the guy who lives opposite. So she writes him a note and suggests he come over every night because she doesn’t like the loneliness. He does but it is all about how he creeps over at first. I can’t imagine doing that myself of course.
I just can’t watch a tearful movie only a comedy so I can laugh. Then again I can cry at anything even before I lost John. He used to smile at me and wrap his arms around me to make me feel better. I miss those hugs so much..