I’ve been widowed for 18 months now and although I’m over the initial shock i am finding living on my own very hard to cope with, not practically but emotionally. I have one son who lives 2 hours drive away.
Although I know lots of people I don’t really have a close friend any more. I am feeling as if my life has come to a full stop.
I was wondering if I should make a new start (I am 72) near to my son, maybe in a retirement home where I can meet new people and maybe join in some activities. I feel a new challenge may be the tonic I need now.
Does anyone have any views on this please?
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Sounds like a good plan to me and you will be near your son too xx
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I had to sell the family home when my husband died, I lived in the middle of nowhere and I was so anxious without him, he had been so poorly in bed for 2 weeks before he died, it had never crossed my mind that I would be so scared without him. The moment he died I realised how alone I was. I’ve had to make a new life for myself now. I try not to expect too much of my only son, he put himself under so much pressure after his dad asked him to look after me (it was his only acknowledgment that he was dying, to anyone really) that I have had to show him I can manage on my own. I’m 49 years old and 22 months a widow.
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I think it sounds a good idea. Somewhere where you’ll have compamy if you want it, and close to your son.
It sounds like you are ready for a new start
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I know how you feel, I can cope with the practicalities but hate living on my own. I am the same age, and was wondering if perhaps I could foster a child. I looked into retirement homes before my husband died, as I felt where we were living was quite isolating, but they were expensive with all the monthly charges etc. I wish we could live like they did in the past, where families all lived together and looked after the older generation!
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Yeh its very isolating in your own home by yourself isnt it ! And people are so damn selfish these days ! I honestly cant believe how selfish people are ! Even my own kids couldnt even be bothered to check i was ok over this bank holiday ! Ive had enough of people and so called crap families ! They couldnt care less !! 
x
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