Hi Punto
Just wondering what happens to the gentleman, do they have anything interesting around? I ask because over here all the groups I looked at were mainly for women. In the one I go to, I’m the only man.
Have a lovely day tomorrow with your family
Tom
I have been going to a bereavement cafe run by a local church. There are a few blokes who go . They have told me there is a really good group held in library. And that is men only .
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Where i used to live they had various men’s groups one was called men in sheds, yjey made wooden items that got sold and the money was given to charity.
Not sure about here as only just moved over to this part of the country.
Hi Punto
I’ve heard of the men in sheds, something I would like if they had such a thing over here. Although not specifically for bereavement it would be good to make friends. As for bereavement groups here I think Spanish men try to hide any weaknesses, although mental health is starting to be recognised as something you need to address.
Today my wife and I would have been celebrating our 40th wedding anniversary. So I will celebrate on my own, and celebrate it I will because am the luckiest man alive to have met her all those years ago
Tom
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Your wife was a very lucky lady to have you in her life.
I would be celebrating 37 years of marriage this year, but I knew Rob from the age of 5 so its strange not having him here any longer.
Have a relaxing day and remember all the good times you had. X
On the thought of groups to join look in your local community centre or library they may have leaflets or posters of places to join and meet people.
I would also been celebrating 37 years of marriage this year . I have been to a few talking tables where you go to make new friends. They are a bit of a mix bag , the people are very friendly. They have already formed their friendship groups.Also they are a lot older than me .
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It’s good that you’ve been able to move forward and you have a very positive attitude. I’m five and a half months into my grief journey after losing my partner suddenly. I cannot see myself moving forward. Where to? It would be a life without him. I’ve already lost a big part of myself when he died, the new me is a stranger. I was never an outgoing gregarious person anyway. Sorry for being so miserable but it’s just the way I feel just now.
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We are desperate Norma, we want our loved ones and life back I know how you feel. It’s heartbreaking but we have no choice but to keep moving forward. I’m taking all our family photos down ready for viewings, I feel like I’m erasing our life together .
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Thanks Punto, I met my wife at just 18 but your 5 beats me hands down. I’ve looked at the local community centre etc but we aren’t as good as is England for these things. Anyway I’ll find something even if it’s further away. It just driving up and down mountains with winter weather doesn’t appeal to much. Soon it’ll warm up and that won’t be a problem.
Have a lovely day
Tom
You are still in early stages, life still goes on for those left behind. I spent all my life with Rob as part of it in different ways but hes not here to guide me through how to be on my own its something only I can navigate.
Ive moved because my old home had sad memories and I want to have a house that I can build my own happy memories in to share with my children and grandchildren.
You will find your own way of doing new things but only when the time is right for you.
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I am now all settled in, I’vemanaged to build some furniture, put blinds up and a few pictures without any help.
Next is the garden its not big but needs to be sorted out. I planted the rose bushes I fetched with me yesterday along the fence to stop grandkids climbing on it, I’ve got lots of pots so today is a visit to a garden centre.
Its strange moving and not knowing anyone to go out for a coffee with or chatting to but I’m sure over the next few months I will settle into the area and meet new people.
I went to london on Wednesday for the day by train to see Ramses the gold exhibition it was fantastic, I did the sky garden as well and then Kinky Boots the musical in the evening my daughter in law came with me as it was my Christmas present from my Son. I got home about 12.30am so slept well.
How you all have a good day today and smile.
My next thing to do is look at some holidays to book for later in the year.
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My goodness you have been busy. It’s good to hear you’re settling in your new home. And you enjoyed your trip to London . Your posts are always so positive and inspiring
Thank you.
I dont like to do posts that are about tears as we all have them at different times, I find being positive helps my mental and physical health, feeling down and repeating the same things about unable to cope as alone make me feel very depressed and when I read other threads that are very shall we say depressing it upsets me that rather than look to the future some can’t seem to move forward and want to just live in the past with a life we unfortunately dont have any longer, we all have to deal with grief in our own way and mine is to be positive, happy and think what Rob would want me to do, I know he would be do proud of how I’ve managed over the last almost 3 years and also shocked that I’ve done so much that we talked about already.
Life is to live and try to enjoy we dont know what the future brings so enjoy what you have now. X
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Hi Punto, your posts aways brighten us up. It’s nice to hear how you are coping and doing so well. I often think after reading a post from you that I ought to try so and so or do this or that. Don’t stop
Wishing you all the best
Tom
I love reading your positive posts, I know I’m in early days at the moment and do struggle. But your positivity is wonderful. I’m happy everything is going well for you. Please keep posting your updates. Sending hugs to you.
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Thank you Punto
I love your posts too. Today my house should be listed for sale. It’s scary but I’m trying to be positive and your posts help.
Also your day out and you looking forward to booking a holiday. I’d love to go to the coast, maybe that will be my first step.
Thanks again x
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The details have arrived for me to approve listing. Now I’m really scared and panicking. Such a massive decision on my own
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Moving house is a big decision to make especially on our own . When I have decisions to make . I sometimes think what would my husband do in this situation. Good Luck 
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Thank you sherbet I’m trying. It’s so easy to panic these days. If I can’t live there it has to go and I know Stephen would know I can’t manage there on my own. Just can’t bring myself to do it. I’m such a wuss.
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I am sure you will make the right decision when you are ready to make it
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