why cant i cope with my sons wife moving on . i know its life shes young , but it hurts so much . any body got any advice x
I’m so sorry for your loss. As a parent who’s lost their child I get it. Nothing will ever be the same. Maybe she’s not really moving on but learning to live with something she can’t change. Ur son is someone u will always share a bond with and if u can try to be civil with her for his sake. U both lost a loved one. Doesn’t mean u both don’t love him or miss him. I’m sure she understands is there anything she can do that will make it any easier. Be kind to urself and each other.
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Finally accepting that is no such thing as moving on after loosing James. It would require me to let go of part of my life and part of my heart. Acceptance is just impossible.
i feel shattered beyond repair and the floor continues to crumble beneath my feet.
The life that i so carefully created has been obliterated in a matter of minutes- its gone, slipped throught my fingers and left my existance.
Life is so much more fragile than i ever knew and now that weakness is mine.
The only part i now carry with me is i must continue to live for my beautiful James, his death cant be for nothing. I wanted to die with James but i couldnt allow death to have that much power over us, xx
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Hello fisher202, first of all im sorry for your loss and i know you have heard it more than you can count, but this is coming from someone that actually feels your pain!
The thing is for everyone else…life does move on but for us it doesn’t and in my opinion it shouldn’t as our children will always be part of us and thats it. We are always going to get resentful towards others but thats just because of our emotional attachment, i hope you can move on from other people’s actions although it is something that i struggle with but i just end up burning up too much energy and exhausted because of it. All the best to you and the rest of your family.
I love the bit where you said…"part of your heart " i couldn’t have said it better myself because my baby had to leave he took one third of mine with him. I say one third because i have two other children but i know that he only took what belongs to him and i have no other use for it.