Hi guys, not been on here for a while,hope you are all doing okay,I am still struggling with the loneliness and loss but I have booked a holiday away for a week,(scared sh*****) but I am going!.Anything is better than feeling like this every day. What do you all think?
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I think that going on a trip is a great idea. It feels wrong, but it is all right. Life has a horrible way of going on without us if we don’t participate. Please don’t let it pass you by. Surely, the first trip without your loved one here is going to be tough, but the next one will be easier. Bravo to you for taking this step. If nothing else you will have something to think and talk about besides your sorrow and loss. I hope you enjoy your trip. Let us know how it was.
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Thankyou so much for your reply.Its just something I have to do. To make me feel part of the world again(still scary though…)
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Hi @maggi7
Just a few words of encouragement for you. I went on my first solo holiday in November 2023, eight months after my darling husband died. I was freaked out in the airport as l checked in for my flight, but my son said to me ‘if you find you can’t do it when you get there, just get on a plane home….’ I found the first couple of days hard, but l really did need the break away from stuff and ended up finding some peace sitting in the sun, which was very welcome. Came home quite proud of myself, and l imagine my husband would have been proud of me too.
I made a second solo trip in June this year, which l actually enjoyed……and l am clearing off again on my own in November. It’s not the same, l would give anything and everything to have my husband with me, however l always imagine he’s there at my shoulder in some parallel universe, and l carry him everywhere in my heart anyway.
The first time will be daunting, but well done for deciding to have a go. If you’re anything like me, once you’ve made that move, you’ll do it again. Hope it goes well for you x
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Hi @maggi7
You go and enjoy it.
I had a week in Scotland in September, I wasn’t alone I had my friend for company.
I missed Roger dreadfully but I’m glad I went.
You’ll be fine. He’ll be right there with you
Love and hugs
Liz x x
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hi YorkshireRose and all you guys on here,hope you are all in a good place today. Well I did it,I went on holiday by myself and although it was hard,I have to say I had a really good time! Met loads of nice people,some of which were in the same situation,first time away on their own,and I had a few wobbles obviously, but that aside it was good to just get away,it really lifts you out of your comfort zone,(you know the one where you don’t want to leave the house,right) only if and when you are ready, I would definetly recommend it x
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Well done @maggi7 ! It’s not easy stepping out like that for the first time, however l am really pleased to hear you had a good holiday. I’m off away again next week, will spend most of the time with my head in a book, no doubt, but a bit of sun will set me up nicely for the winter x
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Is it something you might consider?
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Sorry your last post did not fully come through to me.Glad you are away next week.I read a lot too and although it’s hard try to join in with people.you may surprise yourself, Hope you have a great time x
Sorry youre last post did not come through fully,I read a lots too,but if you join in,you may surprise yourself,have a great time x