I lost my husband just over a year ago and its been hard to cope and ive been very lonely…dont have many friends and the ones i do have are all coupled up…my only son lives over 2 hours away and there has always been talk about me moving nearer to him and his partner…i think ive found the house i want but its literally round the corner from him …ive told him about the house and asked is it too close , he said he needed to discuss it with his partner and since then he keeps sending me other properties which are 20 mins away…which i dont like…so that tells me everything i need know…i feel so sad angry and disappointed that he doesnt want me that close, i dont feel like even talking to him …am i being over sensitive
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I don’t think you’re being oversensitive, especially when he wants you to be closer to him.
I was thinking about moving after my husband passed away, its been 16 weeks today since I lost him. My son said no matter where I go to his dad is not going to be there and I’d still be upset, so I decided to stay in the house. My daughter wants me to wait a few years before I make a decision.
We only bought the house 2 years ago after he retired from the army after 24 years and it was supposed to be our forever home…
Now its just a house to me, its so quiet and empty without him.
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I do understand your disappointment but I know I would find it hard to have my parents that close and I’m sure my sons would feel the same about me.
There’s being close by and there’s being a bit too close by! For me it’s because I need my own space and don’t want to be too enmeshed maybe your son feels the same and although I would like to live closer to my parents after losing my husband, I wouldn’t want them popping round every day. He could be worried you will be become very dependent on him rather than making friends when you move.
I’m sure you’ll find something suitable that’s closer than where you are now where you can build your little community.
Bunny2, I lost my wife in November 2024, and one of my daughters literally lives next door, my son lives 200 yards away and my other two children live within 2 miles. For me it’s wonderful but I can understand it might be just too close for some. My SILs and DILs have no problem at all. we don’t live in each others pockets, but it’s nice to know we have help nearby.
My son is in the army and is an hour and a half away and my daughter lives 2 hours away, I don’t want to burden them now their dads gone.
There dad wanted them to get on with their own lives, besides without my husband there’s no point moving anywhere.
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I so understand that - but it’s just nice to know someone is there.
Yes maybe next year I might make the decision to move, I thought about moving back to my home town where I grew up and where I met him all those years ago
My husband died 2 years ago and I quickly made the decision to move near my two sons. They are only 5 minutes walk away from me but I still see no more of them than when I was 7 miles away. i was and still am totally bereft without my husband and find it a struggle every day and although I am near to them if anything goes wrong their lives have moved on and they are very busy. life is different with our children in these days; they’re always doing some activity and i wish I had stayed where i was. However 20 minutes further away from your son than where you wanted to be isnt too far at all.
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