I am new to this group, just hoping it will help me. Since just before covid , i lost my grandad, dad, mother in law and last my nan. I trh to keep going byt when i am on my like i am being stuid i do is cry i feel so guilty. I was on holiday when my dad passed away. He had a heart attack and when my nan passed i had been with her for 2 weeks and she passed on the one night i went home. I only have my mum and don’t feel like i can talk to her as she has lost her husband and parents. Then my husband has lost his mum when i try to talk to him he brushes it aside and makes me feel like I am being stupid. I am a carer who works nights and i often find myself sitting there crying when my clients are asleep
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Hi @Lisa236
I’m so sorry for all your losses. Your husband will maybe be processing his grief differently from you A d perhaps he didn’t have such a close relationship with his mum.
Be kind to yourself and perhaps seek out some counselling or a support group. It sounds like you really need to talk about things but others around you aren’t a good fit at the moment.
Perhaps chatting to your mum might help her in her grief, as she maybe feels she can’t talk to you either for fear of upsetting you. My kids talk to me when they are missing their dad and it doesn’t make things worse for me. Sometimes it makes it easier as I know I’m not the only one who really misses him.
Look after yourself and just take one day at a time.
Sending some love and strength xxx